Post # 61
valencia247 : I personally don’t see much difference between mocking and mimicking and a quick google search of the definitions didn’t lead me to think otherwise.
It really doesn’t seem like you feel bad about this at all. Whether you had the intention, you still hurt someone’s feelings and apologised because HR got involved. Hopefully next year you can dress as a normal Halloween thing like a witch or a zombie rather than a coworker, a person with feelings who has possibly been teased about an attribute that you choose to mock. Sorry mimic.
Post # 62
Honestly, I know people who would have thought this was a funny idea and it would never occur to them that it could a bad idea.
I do think it was a bad idea but not so malicious as some PP say. And while I would not have liked someone dressing like me, I think I could have found the humor and not been offended either. You are fortunate in how it was handled as I think your bosses probably understood it also was just thoughtless. I’m glad you all made it right and hopefully it’s a good lesson for everyone.
Post # 63
loz24 : I must have mixed up the definitions. All I was trying to say is that we were not trying to ridicule and make fun of these people. We were just copying their everyday outfits and hairstyle basically. The only other thing that some added on were glasses. There was no mockery involved. We weren’t making a parody or ridiculing, as the definition says. And no, I didn’t personally hurt anyone’s feelings so I’m not sure where that’s coming from. I stated in the OP and in my update that the girl I drsssed as knew ahead of time and was personally ok with it. The girl who dressed as the short girl did hurt her feelings by kneeling on her shoes, but I didn’t know she was coming in as her until this past Friday. So I’m not sure how I’m responsible for hurting her feelings?
Honestly, how does dressing like someone and putting on a wig = making fun of them? If I was walking around going “hey look at me! I’m Sally! I’m an idiot!” Then yes, THAT would be making fun of her. Quite literally, I copied her outfit and got a brunette wig. Personally, I don’t feel bad for dressing like my friend because she said it was ok. If she had been bothered by it when I told her, I absolutely wouldn’t have done it. I feel bad that someone did get their feelings hurt, but that wasn’t something I personally did to her. It wasn’t my idea to tell someone “hey! Why don’t you dress like (name) and then when they take pictures, kneel on your shoes?!” We individually picked who we were dressing as. Which is why I mentioned it to my friend first, so she would know and tell me if she was upset by it. The fact that she gave me her jewelry to wear and sent me pictures of different outfit ideas tells me she was far from upset.
Idk how the others felt. But that’s not on me. If the other people in my group didn’t ask if it was ok at first, then that’s on them. I didn’t even know who was dressing like who until Friday. It’s not like we sat around and discussed it. We also didn’t do any “fat suits” or change our facial features for this costume. It was an outfit and a wig. Sheesh if I knew it would cause this much of a ruckus I would have stayed home and enjoyed the holiday by myself 🙄
Post # 64
I’ve only seen dressing up as another person work out as a Halloween costume when everyone was good friends and it came from a genuine place of love. It sounds like none of you were even that close with your coworkers, so of course they bristled. One could argue that making a costume out of someone else’s appearance is inherently mocking. Not a great idea, all around.