- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
so for the past couple years, my husband’s aunt has hosted a holiday get together and invited my husband’s side of the family (his single father, his siblings and their spouses, my husband and I, etc.). when i was speaking with her around thanksgiving, she mentioned how much she likes our family tradition (her children don’t see family often and get really excited to see their older cousins at christmas) and how excited she is to see everyone.
the problem is that we haven’t heard anything from his aunt regarding the date/time of this get together, which usually falls the weekend before christmas, since she mentioned it in passing this fall. we don’t think it’s appropriate to call her up and ask her when she wants us over (very presumptious, and we’re not close with her in that way) but our holiday plans with other family members will greatly change based on whether or not she will be hosting another party and when it will be if she does.
my husband asked his father to call his aunt and inquire about it, but his father said he also feels that it’s rude/presumptious to “invite himself over”. unfortunately, if we go ahead and make other plans, his father will be hurt that we’re not attending his family’s party. and if we don’t make other plans and there is no party this year, it will delay our plans visit other relatives by several days and make travel a little inconvenient.
how should we handle this? for me, im perfectly indifferent as to whether or not we go but it means a lot of my husband’s father, and by extension, my husband. i really just want to confirm these plans so we can plan accordingly.