Post # 1
has anyone ever heard that its traditional and proper etiquette to hand deliver the parent’s wedding invitations? i have never heard of this…and it doesn’t make total sense because my parents are "sending" the invitations, so technically they aren’t inviting themselves? but is that in fact tradition for the groom’s parents?
Post # 4
Never heard of it. What if they live really far away? =P
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2008 - Oceanfront lawn and tent
Ha! I have never heard of that tradition, but strangely that is what we did (they live near us). Miss Tiramisu = subconscious random etiquette follower? 😛
Post # 6
Well, in the olden days most invitations were hand-delivered. The outer envelope was to keep the actual envelope from being smudged by the coachman or footman’s fingers… and after delivery, the whole thing was presented on a silver tray by the butler. Nowadays, we use the mail service. The only reason I can think that you would hand-deliver your FIL’s invite is if you don’t want to spring for a stamp. And isn’t it more exciting to find it in the mailbox anyway?
Post # 7
i do know that in some asian (chinese, vietnamese..) cultures, hand-delivering invitations if they are local is the more respectful way to invite parents, grandparents, and close relatives. it just depends on whether this is the preferred method for parents (usually the more traditonal ones). but in these modern times, i think most people understand. 🙂
Post # 8
we were going to hand deliver them to people where possible. It would be a special visit and who doesn’t like a face-to-face meeting? We’re not too into etiquettes so could care less about following them.
Post # 9
ok, glad i’m not the only one. Future Sister-In-Law "suggested" it – meaning – Future In-Laws are expecting it to be hand delivered…i have just never heard of anyone doing that?