(Closed) Hand-delivered invitations?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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10510 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Why would it be poor taste?  It’s more personal than mailing them.  Just don’t give them out if you’re with a group and not everyone in the group is getting one.

 

I hand delivered some of mine.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I intend to hand-deliver some

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hand delivered some of mine. It was actually kind of cool to see their excitement about receiving one.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i have no problem receiving a hand-delivered invitation, but i prefer not to do hand deliveries myself. tracking down addresses can be a hassle, but for me, it’s more of a hassle going around to different people’s homes dropping of invitations. it’s much easier to drop them all in the mail at once and be done with it. 

Post # 7
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

FI and I were just discussing this the other day. We have many friends that live close by that we see almost every day.  They will be getting a hand delivered invitation. I think its just fine.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lilchicana:  That’s a good point. I only hand-delivered invites to people I see very regularly, like co-workers or BFFs. I wouldn’t intentionally drive around to dorp them off. With the cost of gas, it’ll be better to just mail them at that point.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re considering box invitations and at ~$2 to mail we hope to hand-deliver some of them. As you mentioned, they’d be hand delivered to those we see often or if a family member, we’ll have someone pass them along (ie FI’s mom will give his aunt/uncle their invite since they see each other often).

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

It is fine to hand deliver them.  But you may want to track down their addresses anyway.  You will need them for thank you notes.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@speechgal44:  Perfectly proper. Hand-delivered invitations should not be placed in an outer envelope. The inner envelope, or invitation card with write-in lines, is hand delivered as-is. Naturally you would never hand a guest her invitation in the presence of any third uninvited party.

Post # 12
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Hand delivery is quite lovely, but to be polite (in which case, btw, it’s the height of politeness), invitations must be hand delivered to the addressee at home.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hey, it saves in postage so why not? It’s all the same inside the envelope…

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

we hand delivered most of ours. Especially to friends and family members that I see on a daily or weekly basis. The rest got mailed but it saved us $$$ in postage. At 85 cents a piece I think we hand delivered about 30 of them. that adds up fast. 

Post # 15
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I hand delivered all of the invites that were in my town.  The only problem was, a lot of people weren’t home, and I was worried about putting it in their mailboxes, as a few were so stuffed full with flyers and newspapers I could tell they didn’t check in there often. 

 

Post # 16
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I only hand-delivered 2 invitations. One was because mail kept getting returned when I tried to send it to her, and the other was because one of my bridemaids was very between addresses (like sleeping on people’s couches…long story) and she didn’t have an actual mailing address. But many of our friends live right near us (down the street, up the street, etc) and I mailed them. I think its nice and more formal to mail the invitation as opposed to just giving it to someone when I see them or at work or whatever.

Also, I know a lot of people are saying it saves on postage to hand deliver, but unless you’re hand delivering all of them, I wouldn’t leave the postage off. If someone handed me an invitation without postage but I knew other people who recieved theirs through the mail, it would be pretty clear to me that they were just trying to save the postage which, as practical as it may be, could make a person feel that they weren’t really worth the extra 80 cents. Possibly in some circles, areas of the country, etc. this would go unnoticed, but I know my parents’ friends especially would think this.

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