Post # 1
What is the etiquette with regards to hand delivering wedding invitations. On the one hand, I think they should all be mailed, but I thought I remembered reading somewhere that the reason for the inner envelope was to make sure the invitation was kept clean for all those invitations that were hand delivered.
My mother and I are at odds about this one! 🙂
Post # 3
I dont understand why anyone would hand deliver invitations. It seems like a colossal waste of time. If you were having a very intimate event it would be one thing but hand delivering invites for a typical wedding with atleast 75 people is kind of crazy to me.
Post # 4
OP, are you going to hand-deliver all of the invitations or just some of them?
Post # 5
I think hand delivering some is fine. Like when we were sending ours out, if I knew I was going to see that person this weekend well I might as well just give it to them in person rather than putting it in the mail. But hand delivering all would be a chore and I wouldn’t waste my time on that. Not sure about the etiquette around it though.
Post # 6
I have people I invited who live down the street and I still mailed them. I don’t know squat about etiquette but somehow I get the feeling if I started hand delivering them I’d have some ridiculous person ask ‘oh what, I wasn’t worth a stamp?’
Post # 7
The inner envelope is so it’s kept clean in the mail, and so you don’t have to “violate” any postal rules by writing all the people that are invited, or “and guest” on a mailing envelope.
I have no issue with hand delivering invites, and did it for quite a few of my invites to people I see regularly. We had a traditional 90 person wedding, and it wasn’t really a waste of time at all. Just had them on hand and remembered to bring them when we had plans with those people, and all that were out of town or still left at our place as the wedding got close we mailed.
Post # 8
If you want to hand deliver, I think it’s fine! People get excited either way, I think, plus it’s a little more personal to hand it to someone. But of course nothing is wrong with mailing! It’s whatever you want to do, lady!
Post # 9
@smiles4jo: My mom told me that in Mexico when she was a bride, it was the tradition to hand deliver, not mail, invitations. Because her family was poor, she didn’t have a car, so she had to walk everywhere. My paternal grandfather saw her one day, far on the other side of town and asked her what she was doing! After she explained, my grandfather went back to yell at my dad for not helping her. 🙂
But when I hand delivered invitations to friends, I still put a stamp on it – more so it looked pretty, but also so it didn’t seem i was trying to be cheap and save the cost of a stamp. 🙂