Post # 1
Our wedding is in August 2017, and I just got our Save-The-Date Cards yesterday! We want to start sending them out, especially to out of state guests so they can start making travel arrangements. Obviously we will mail them for out of state folks, but for local guests that we see often, is it tacky to hand-deliver the Save-The-Date Cards, and later on, the invitations? If we’re going to see a lot of these people between 2-4 months before the wedding, it would make a lot more sense to give them out when we see them – saves us a lot on postage since we’re inviting over 200 people, and guarantees that they don’t get lost in the mail.
On the other hand, I don’t want to offend anyone or come across as tacky or “too casual” for giving them out in person. Not sure if there are “rules” about this. The cost of postage certainly isn’t going to break the bank or send us over our budget, but its more just the principle of the thing.
Post # 2
We hand delivered a few of our Save-The-Date Cards to people we saw every week but if we saw them less than that we mailed the invitation.
I guess the formality of your event might come into play. Our wedding was more on the casual side but if you were having a very formal event I would think it was weird to hand out invites rather than mailing them.
Post # 3
I personally don’t think it’s tacky at all. My friend did this earlier in the year (though it was due to a pending postal strike in Canada), and it was fine.
I would beware that you don’t give an invatation to someone who is with someone who isn’t invited (ie 3 of you go out for coffee and you give an invite to 1 person only), because that is super awkward. Also do not hand out any invites for work people AT work, unless you are inviting the whole office.
Post # 4
I asked this exact question a few months ago and the consensus was that it was not tacky! I went home for a visit in August and gave STDs to my family members at that time. We also had a potential postal strike that encouraged me to do it then. I mailed the rest just a couple weeks ago.
Post # 5
blueyedrunner : I know old school people like it when they’re hand-delivered as it implies that they’re sort of “guests of honor” at least in my culture, so when it was time to send out invites my husband (the FI) and I went to certain family members, close acquiantances to hand deliver the invitations. 🙂
We mailed all Save the Dates though.
Post # 6
Most of our friends and some of my family live near us and we see them often, so all of them are getting theirs delivered by hand. Nobody has had a problem with it yet, and I’d honestly be surprised if they did. They’ve all opened them right atway, and it’s pretty fun to see their reactions!
Post # 7
blueyedrunner : I think it is fine to hand deliver, that is if they actually get delivered. There have been so many weddings where we never actually receive the invitation and are just expected to know all the details. Also, I find it a little annoying hwen people give your invitation to someone else to hand out. That just doesn’t sit well with me for whatever reason.
Post # 8
I have know people to do STD via email or on FB… So I don’t see what’s the big deal … you’re actually personally taking the time to give it to them face to face??? I say go for it…
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
blueyedrunner : I remember reading that hand delivery is ok as long as you SEE the recipient.
Popping it through the letterbox/in the mailbox when they aren’t home is not ok because it implies you just cheaped out on postage.
We’re hand delivering quite a few of ours 🙂
Post # 10
I thought about hand-delivering but my fiance’ wasn’t necessarily on-board. Plus I bought all these cute heart shaped stamps so I wanted my local friends/family to see that too. (Cheesy I know)
Post # 11
I hand delivered our Save-The-Date Cards and invitations to my coworkers that I see everyday. Other than that, I mailed them.
Post # 12
We personally handed out about half of our save the dates! We will likely do similar for the wedding invitations as well. It worked out well for us.
Post # 13
Perfectly fine. You should name and address fully and write ‘by hand’ in the corner where the stamp would go.
Post # 14
We only hand delivered ours to our roommates because it felt weird mailing them such a short distance. We got married right after we graduated college and during college, our houses were directly across the street from each other so we would have been mailing them from my house to my house and my house to straight across the street and that just didn’t make sense. I don’t see anything wrong with delivering them to people you see very frequently as long as you make sure there aren’t other people around who aren’t invited when you do so.