(Closed) Hand Fasting Ceremony

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009


We did a handfasting ceremony.  We used a tie in our colors to wrap our hands (which actually stayed place better than a rope I think).


Post # 6
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was also thinking about doing this for our ceremony.  I think it would be cute to use two colors of ribbon and the grooms mom and the brides mom to bring up each color. You can make it whatever you would like.  The mom’s could wrap the ribbon around your hands, or the officiant could, or the dads could. 

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Post # 8
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re using the handfasting ceremony at our wedding, but I don’t think we are going to use rope or ribbon to tie our hands together.  I suppose it kind of defeats the purpose, but then again, we’d just end up removing the ribbon that tied our hands together, which also doesn’t seem right.  So if someone has a good suggestion, I’d love to hear it.

Post # 11
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re handfasting! I don’t know if this helps, but I wrote a blog post about it.  We’re using the wording I found on another website (in the blog post). In this ceremony, there are six different cords/strips of fabric whatever which are bound after each ‘vow.’  I haven’t decided what to bind our hands with but possibly my tartan since I’m from a Scottish background.  http://msleetobe.wordpress.com/2010/01/23/on-handfasting/

@lkbphmd in the ceremony we are using there is a good section when the hands are unbound “The knots of this binding are not formed by these chords but instead by your vows. Either of you may drop the chords, for as always, you hold in your own hands the making of breaking of this union.”

Post # 12
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I was surprised to find this on wedding bee. The handfasting has long been a wiccan tradition (with Celtic roots) known mostly within only that community, but the symbolism is beautiful. To rather belatedly, address lkbphmd‘s query: you are not supposed to undo the knot. It should be wrapped around your hands in such a way that you can “shrug” out of the ribbon or cord and keep the knot intact. A wiccan would usually keep the ribbon as a magickal charm or taglock that signifies love. In the event of a divorce, the knot would be undone and the ribbon burned. Also, from a wiccan/magickal perspective, the ribbon should always be red (or pink if the love is romantic and not sexual) which is also of symbolic significance. Thought i’d leave my two cents for anyone else looking to include this ritual in their wedding ceremony!

Post # 12
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Did any of you include an explanation of handfasting in your wedding programs?

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