Post # 1
I’ve been dating this guy (we’re both mid-to-late 20s) for about a month…spend a lot of time together, but have not had the “want to be exclusive?” talk yet..I’m waiting for him to bring that up.
Anyway, he kisses my hand a lot, which I love. Like when we’re watching movies, driving in the car…is this a sign of him having feelings for me or is it just a southern thing?
Additionally, he has introduced me to many of his freinds, including taking me on a double date the other day with his best freind and his fiance. They had indicated that they had heard a lot about me.
Also, he wasn’t feeling well the other day so I took him to the hospital. While we were there he was texting//calling a lot of people (including his parents) to update them and they all knew me by name. One person didn’t know who I was, and he explained I was “the girl I’m talking to”
I’ve been out of the dating game for so long and I just am confused….
Post # 3
Some people don’t feel the need to have that talk, to them it is just assumed. If one person assumes and the other doesn’t conflict can arise. That’s why it’s best for you just to bring it up!
Post # 4
Sounds like boyfriend-girlfriend territory is where it’s headed but . . . yeah. I dunno. Are you supposed to wait to have the label talk before either of you uses those terms?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
The signs are good! Hold on tight! A month is not so long. . . So give it a little while. Seems like he is pretty into you if everyone knows who you are by Name.
Post # 6
@sweetgirl1234: Not everyone has the “are we exclusive?” talk. It sounds like you’re headed in that direction, at the very least. I would bring it up in the next few weeks if he doesn’t. I assume you’re using protection if you’re having sexy times, but it still is important to know if you’re exclusive or not, IMO.
Post # 7
It’s not a Southern thing. Sounds to me like he has feelings for you.
@AB Bride: I totally agree!
Post # 8
It’s really best at this point to talk to him about it. Guys are surprisingly easy, they really don’t play as many headgames as women like to think/assume they do. Just tell him that you want to know if what you’ve got is heading into relationship territory and how he’d feel about defining it.
Post # 9
@sweetgirl1234: DTR: “define the relationship”. It’s been a month, there is nothing wrong with finding out if this is exclusive or not. Boyfriend and I are from Texas (living in Dallas) and he kisses my hand alot…but not until we were an item officially, and I think even then it was a few months after that. I don’t think hand-kissing is a safe enough way to interpret relationship status: just ask him.
Post # 10
He sounds like he is into you 🙂
I would wait for some more time, and then have the “talk” in a very nice and relaxed tone, just to see with both of you are in the same page. Good luck!
And is also a good sign that he spoke alot about you (to his family and close friends) it means that he thinks you’re the kind of “present to the family” girl, wich in my opinion, is a clear indicator of “boyfriend-girlfriend” material.
But since you are only dating for one month, I would wait and enjoy 🙂
Post # 11
just ask him if he’s dating anyone else – you should want to know that before you sleep with him anyways I’d assume (at least I would). Some people never have it and it’s just assumed, but it’s always best to hear it straight from the horse’s mouth instead of making an assumption that may come back to bite you in the ass later.
Post # 12
Sounds like he’s in to you a lot. I’d just ask him flat out if he is seeing anyone else, if not ask him if he wants to be exclusive (aka BF/GF). That is if YOU want to be exclusive. If he is seeing other people that gives you information you need to decide if you want to continue being in a non exclusive relationship or cut your losses and move on to the next guy.
Post # 13
@sweetgirl1234: My SO & I both grew up in California and he kisses my hand like that all the time, too. I think it’s just an affectionate thing. And if he’s talking to everyone about you, I think that’s a very good sign.
My SO didn’t have a lot of relationships before me. In fact, I think he only casually dated a couple people and never had “the talk”. I knew this, so I brought it up. I forget how the conversation started but at some point I told him “I’m guessing it would never dawn on you to ask me to be exclusive, right?” And he was like “Oh. Yeah. Um… but if you want exclusivity…. you have it.” 😛 I love my dorky man. Poor guy, I made him ask me to be his girlfriend, later, in person. HAHA.
Post # 14
After a month of seeing my H, I did come out and ask, “Are you by chance seeing any other women besides me?” He said no way, I was it and asked me the same. He said that if I had other suitors or was messing around with other guys besides him, he would have probably stopped seeing me at that point.
Then after 3 months of dating, we started saying boyfriend/girlfriend.
So if you do get intimate or it’s close, I think there is nothing wrong with just seeing if there are other people in the picture or not!