Post # 1
Is it tacky to have only hand passed or only station hors d’oeuvres at cocktail hour? Our reception, cocktail hour, and ceremony are all at the same place. The ceremony will be 30 min, cocktail hour 1hr, and reception immediately afterward. If you were to only have passed or stationed which would you choose. Just trying to save a few extra dollars! Thanks!
Post # 3
I think it’s fine. I prefer stationed just because it’s easier for guest to come up and grab what they want. With passed you have to stake out the servers and hope to catch them before they run out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Stationary, because that way all guests are ensured to have them. One issue with passed it that everyone “waits” for the servers to come out, and the tray is gone in a minute.
Post # 5
I’d prefer the passed hors d’oeuvres. This way you don’t have to stand in line, the food comes to you.
Post # 6
it is not tacky to have one over the other. I would just go with which ever is cheaper for you. If you have only the displayed hors d’oeuvres then your guest can just go get what they want, but with passed they would have to wait for the waitstaff to come around with the hors d’oeuvres. Either way would be fine though.
Post # 7
The word tacky is so over used on this site!
Post # 8
I don’t see too many faults with dispalyed/stationed hors d’oeurves; if they are set up correctly, there usually isn’t a crazy line. Passed tend to take longer and typically cost more because there’s direct labor involved with the servers. We are doing a mix of both.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The passed apps got eaten much more than the stationary apps at our wedding, so I’d go with passed only if I had to do it again.
Post # 10
@AprilJo2011: I do as well.
We are having passed as well although I don’t think either one would be considered tacky (there is that word again!!!). It is merely a matter of preference and I have been to many weddings with both and they are all just as enjoyable.
Post # 11
I haven’t been to a wedding where they’ve had either option, but I always see the brides on Four Weddings (US & the Canadian one) stalking the servers and being annoyed when they run low. It looks like it can create a weird/semi-hostile environment if guests are hungry!
Post # 12
I prefer stations just because I like surveying my options and being able to take what I like.With the passed, you kind of just have to stand there and wait to get something. Then I end up feeling a little awkward lol.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I prefer butler passed to stations.
Post # 14
If it has to be one or the other, I prefer stationary because it’s easier to access the food at my own pace rather than having to stalk the servers (who never seem to fully circulate because of the 3-5 aggressive guests strategically positioned in the best spots by the kitchen who mob all the trays).
Post # 15
Also, keep in mind that if you do stationary you will need more food than you would need with butler passed, because people eat more when they can get the food themselves.
Post # 16
I prefer stations as a guest 🙂