Post # 1
Did you write your own vows/are you writing your own vows or are you sticking with traditional vows? What made it special either way?
It’s more of a trend now to write your own vows and I always think they’re so cute BUT I am a very private person when it comes to my feelings. I literally never share my feelings except with fi and he says even then it’s like pulling teeth. So I’m thinking that I will write vows but just share them privately with fi during our first look or in a card before the ceremony, but I’m curious to hear what everyone did/is doing for theirs. Did it still feel personal using the traditional vows?
Post # 2
We wrote our vows and it added a very special touch to our wedding. It’s a bit awkward in front of everyone but SO worth it! 🙂
Post # 3
Personal vows are popular now, but Darling Husband and I felt that traditional vows broadly encapsulated all that we wanted to promise to each other. It was still sentimental and lovely.
Post # 4
Some couples write and read letters to each other instead of writting own vows. We did write our own and I wouldnt have had it any other way. I loved that his promises were his, and mine were mine.
Post # 5
We’re using traditional vows. I suggested it as a way to help his mother feel better about us not having a church wedding. But I also like the idea that marriage isn’t something new and different we’re doing, but rather I see it as joining an institution that people have found valuable for hundreds of years, and the idea of doing the same vows people have done for decades really appealed to me for that reason. Both of our parents are still happily married after 30+ years, which definitely adds to this feeling.
Post # 6
I love the idea of personal vows, but I think ultimately it depends on the couple. Fiance is a pretty private person and he would not feel comfortable gushing in front of everyone. We are writing letters, to tell each other our sentiments and promises privately.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We said both and I LOVED it that way! There’s something so beautiful and weighty about the traditional vows…. but we also wanted to add a personal touch. We agreed to keep the personal vows to like 5-6 sentences each though. (IMO it’s kinda awkward / over the top when the bride and groom are giving epic speeches at the altar, ya know?)
Post # 8
we wrote “personal” vows together and then exchanged cards the morning before the wedding with our really personal vows
I liked using non-traditional working that was more us in the ceremony but not having it be so ugly cry moment of breaking down in front of everyone… when we did cards in the morning I was serious water works!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
We are both very private people too so we’re planning on writing letters to each other containing our personalized vows and each reading them before the ceremony (separately in our own rooms).
Then we’ll say the traditional vows in front of everyone. I think it’s a great compromise and we’ll be much more comfortable this way.
Post # 10
Neither of us had any interest in doing personal vows. That kind of stuff is private in my opinion. I think adding a few personal phrases might not be so bad, but a long drawn out love letter would probably be awkward for guests.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
We wrote our own vows. They were both personal. Mine was more like a poem with symbolism so it wasn’t out and out gushy. His were gushy and lovely. I didn’t want to do traditional vows because I wanted them to be in our own words, from our own minds.
Post # 12
MrsA44: I have the same issue. I do not publicly display my feeling very well either and I would so ugly cry tryin to read them. We are writing letters to each other and putting them in a box to open on our anniversary instead of a unity candle. We will stick to traditional vows during the ceremony.
Post # 13
MrsA44: I wrote our whole ceremony and then we both wrote our own vows but made sure they were in the same format so they flowed. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I liked it being more personalized and people even asked if we wrote everything ourselves because it was so “us”
Post # 14
Traditional vows but I plan on giving personal vows to Fiance with his day of wedding gift.
Post # 15
I have never been to a wedding where personal vows didn’t make me uncomfortable, lol.
I think it would be better to share those privately maybe during a first look.