Post # 1
I’m having what I like to call a wedding with ‘rustic elegance’ and I’ve decided to wrap our invites with a white handkercheif with a small border of lace and tying it with hemp twine. I think it looks adorable and I hope everyone else does too.
When it’s unwrapped I want to have a small tree motif (that matches our invites) screenprinted or transferred on it with a pretty saying underneath.
Here’s the opinion I need… I was thinking about writing something short and sweet about potentally bringing the hankie with them, “for happy tears…” something else and then in honor of my father who is now deceased. (I also want it known it’s not a necessity if too much of a hassle.)
I was wondering if anyone out there could help me with a short phrase and/or if you received something like that, if you’d think it was sweet or strange and also if you’d bring it (I’ve heard other people have done it and some men even wore it folded in their pockets which I thought was really sweet).
My mother thinks most people won’t appreciate this and will just throw it away?
Post # 3
I would love it and think it was sweet and appreciate the time you put into it. And, I’d bring it. I can’t speak for “most people,” I think those who you are close to would think it’s great. I love the idea, and you don’t see it much anymore. My Gram (Dad’s mom) was an amazing seamstress, and he still carries a handcrafted and monogrammed handkercheif she made for him. He has nicer ones from her for when he wears a suit (he’s an attorney.) As far as the saying, maybe something like this:
“Feel free to treasure for those happy wedding tears… in loving honor of my father.”
Post # 4
it really depends on the ppl.. many may have good intentions to bring it n jus 4get about it closer to the day.. i kno this isnt wat u planned but if its a real important to u for them to have the hankie at the wedding then maybe u should consider giving it out at the wedding instead
Post # 5
I wouldn’t think it was strange – but I would definitely not bring it. I just don’t remember things like that. Since it’s fabric, it would probably go into my rag drawer where I put all left over fabric scraps so I don’t have to use paper towels.
So if you had someone like me as a guest, would it offend you to know that’s what’s happening with your handkerchiefs? If so, just put them out at the ceremony so those who want can take. If you think most recipients would appreciate, use, love and you aren’t going to be upset if some don’t – then go for it.
Post # 6
i would think that it was a beautiful way to make your invitation special. i doubt i would think to bring it to the wedding though. as for what i would do with it. probably keep it with the invitation in my keepsake box that holds all of the wedding invites and stuff i save.
Post # 7
Thank you all for your feedback, it’s much appreciated.
I wouldn’t be offended if not everyone or most everyone didn’t bring the hankerchief and that’s probably a good reason why I wanted to think of some saying that doesn’t say ‘you must bring!’ but gives everyone the option.
i think this is more for me anyway because i want my father to somehow be recognized since he can’t be there for our special day… and i know all that knew him would keep it in some shape or form…
i suppose i thought it was just another creative way to make a unique ‘inner’ envelope too… lol
thanks cbee for your thoughts on the verbiage! maybe instead of ‘for’ ill just replace it with ‘or bring for’ and then it’s clear that it’s just an option? if anyone else thinks of anything pretty please let me know too… i’m definitely no wordsmith!