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Anyone else haveing a Handfasting in their cermony? Mine is going to be a mix of basic vows and handfasting. I found the greatest officant in my area so excited. I would love to hear about anyone elses plans. Such as ribbons, writing vows etc. 🙂
Post # 3
I’ve heard of this before. what exactly is it, if you don’t mind explaining? FMIL is pagan 🙂
Post # 4
We had a handfasting and traditional vows. Basically, we had a little bit of wording at the beginning about the hand fasting then did our vows with our hands bound together. Then after the vows, the handfasting was released since we were bound together by vows and didn’t need to be physically bound.
ETA: Here is a pic from ours
Post # 5
@Mrs.Lonestar: The term Handfasting is taken from Old Norse “hand-festa” meaning “to strike a bargain by joining hands”. Handfasting is the tradition of lightly binding the hands of a couple together using a cord, rope, ribbons, a scarf, tartan or strips of fabric. It is meant to signify a couples coming together as “One”. (or perhaps to keep the Groom from running away!) Whatever it’s original intention, it has become a popular new tradition for today’s couples seeking new and Spiritual ways to honour their love.
Heres a cool link that explains some more. Where I took the text above from.
Post # 6
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: love the tie being used. 🙂
Post # 7
Yup!There will be hand fasting with pagan hand fasting vows along with personal vows.
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Post # 9
so beautiful to hear of some fellow handfasters! lol, yes, we are having a small ‘traditional’ ceremony first in the castle keep with our own vows (and an owl to bring our rings reprsenting the blessing of people who cannot be present), and then the handfasting outside afterwards under a big oak tree.
I found a woman online gaias handfasting who does beautiful cords with crystals and celtic patterns- we are going to use tartan ribbons for the first promises (we are getting married in Scotland), and while that’s happening get our special cord passed around our loved ones so they can put a blessing into it, and then use that for the final knot.
Let us know how you get on; I’m sure it will be spiritual, sincere and gorgeous and you will fall just a tiny bit more in love 😉 lol
Post # 10
@Idealistic_hippy28: This sounds amazing. Im so excited about the handfasting part of my cermony. I seeked out a special officant in my area because of it and I love her. Right now im debating the type of ribbon Im going to use for ours. I kinda like the traditional colored ribbons or make my own.
Post # 11
My friend had handfasting as part of her traditional ukrainian orthodox ceremony also. Although I know Ukrainian culture in particular has a lot of pagan roots, don’t ask me what the connection is. Even though I grew up in that culture I’m not very “church-y”. They used a ruschnyk, an embroidered cloth, to tie their hands together.
There was a really cute moment when the priest asked her to sign the register without having untied their hands and she couldn’t do it. She had a great sense of humour about it and it was really touching and sweet.
Post # 14
here is the hand blessing/ hand fasting section of our ceremony- first draft.
BLESSING OF HANDS
“These are the hands of your best friend, strong and full of love for you.
They are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years,
And with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will, countless times, wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will help you hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly; these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours,
Still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”
Post # 15
I went to a wedding which had handfasting, and theu used 2 long pieces of each family tartan sown together into one. It was so lovely!
Post # 16
I really want to incorporate this into ours. My other half is unsure, but that’s more because he’s not familiar with it.