Post # 1
i like the idea of both of these ceremoies and was wondering if you bees have any ideas as to how to make them into one. i got the idea about possibly driping the wax from the untiy candle onto the knot of the handfasting cord or someting. any opinions? has anyone done this before?
me and FH are trying to draw the ceremony out a bit because we are both non religious so there will be no prayers or “blessing” type things. we both like the idea of celebrating unity and togetherness of becoming our own family. we wre also thinking of a way to involve our son who will be about a year and a half old when we are getting amrried. at this point any imput will be awesome!
Post # 3
I feel like dripping wax has the potential for disaster. What if after the handfasting ceremony, you each take an end of the cord and wrap it around the unity candle?
Post # 4
Well, it is normal (from my understanding), that after you tye the knot in your handfasting, that you then perform some task. Performing this task symbolizes partnership and team work.
I am terrified of fire, so I have never paid much attention to unity candles, but I think the idea is you each have a candle, and then you light a big candle together?
You could light the candles, and then have the tying of the knot. You could do something with the candle, like carry it from the pedastal to a lantern. Although, you do risk setting something on fire with a candle and limited mobility.
You could work it in at two different parts of the ceremony, having them be two unique things instead of combining them, which would make it longer. Have one, and then a short sermon on how the unity candle represents two people becoming one, united in the fire of spirit and heart or something like that. Then have the handfasting, and talk about how that represents overcoming difficulties with team work. So you can use the different ceremonies to highlight different aspects of your new marriage.
Post # 5
thank you for the imput. as dangerous as it seems it sounds really cool to perform the unity candle cermony while being handfated(we are going to only have 1 hand tied together) as a way of tieing the too together. it kinda works out too because i am left handed while FH is right handed so if our non dominant hand is tied it may not be so bad right?