Post # 1
My officiant just told me of the handfasting ceremony, which I love the idea of since sand and candles weren’t really our thing. He mentioned haveing a cord, probably white/ivory that your guests tie ribbons to. That we should pick ribbon colors based on what they represent and pre cut them to what ever length (i.e. 6inchs) and then as the guests arrive they choose which ribbon color they wish to tie on the cord. Then once it is time during our ceremony for the handfasting it will be presented to us by a loved one. Basically he described a plain cord with many ribbons tied on it. It sounds lovely but when I tried to find a picture of it I couldn’t really find one. When I look up handfasting I find several ribbons braided or otherwise twisted together that get wrapped around our hands, not something with ribbons attached to it. Can anyone help me figure out if there is info on this kind of handfasting?
Post # 3
@NikkiChic: This ceremony sounds really sweet! Unfortunately, I’ve never heard of it…. Any other bees maybe?
Post # 4
@NikkiChic: The first pic on this Wiki article might show what you have described: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handfasting 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve never seen handfasting done in this particular way. It seems to be a variant on traditional handfasting, in which thirteen ribbons, each of a different colour representing an aspect that should be brought to the marriage, were used to bind the couple’s hands. Instead of using thirteen ribbons, your officiant will use one main cord with colours tied onto it. The principle is the same.
I hope to incorporate a handfasting into my ceremony. There are some beautiful words that can be said at this time. “These are the hands that will give you strength, these are the hands that will comfort you, these are the hands that will hold your children…”
In my opinion, this is where the phrase “tying the knot” came from!
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of that particular kind of hand fasting, with guests tying on ribbons, but it sounds beautiful. I love the idea and symbolism of hand fasting and plan to use it in my wedding as well.
Post # 7
I’ve never seen this particular variant on a handfasting. I’ve usually seen braided cords. But I like the fact that this allows all your guests to participate!