(Closed) Handfasting ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would love to know this as well. 

It seems beautiful, but all the videos online just make it seem really tacky :/

I wanted to do a mixed Christian/Pagan handfasting ceremony without it looking silly, especialy to the traditional crowd.

Post # 4
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re doing one – I don’t have video, but I’ve been to lots of them since I’m a UU.

Do you have any questions about them?

Here’s the wording my friend used, I’ll be using it too but tweaked a bit:


“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”

Even as their hands are joined together and their love is shared, it also touches the friends and family members who in various ways support and contribute to the relationship.

In many cultures including Hindu, Egyptian and Celtic, the hand of a bride and groom are tied together as a symbol of their new bond and commitment to the marriage. This is the origin of the expression “Tying the knot”.

All of you are X and Y’s community, and each of you has played a part in bringing them to this moment. This is why gathering as a community is such an important part of a wedding ceremony. Because they are now taking a new form as a married couple, and in this form, they become part of their community in a new way.  

At this time, X and Y would like to invite you to take a piece of ribbon and use it to tie their hands, as you give them a blessing, spoken or unspoken.”

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