(Closed) Handfasting… when do you do it?

posted 5 years ago in Pagan
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Commenting to follow… I’m curious too! 🙂

Post # 4
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Newbee

I’m a practicing pagan and I have seen many handfastings. Usually the rings go on before the hands are bound but before the vows are made. The cord is not wrapped tightly around the hands. It’s just meant to actually meant to bound the hands. The tying is supposed to be more around the wrists. It’s supposed to be more symbolic of being as one on your wedding day. Make it your own. You can practice if you want to be tied when you place the ring on so that more your wrists and lower hands are tied so that your fingers are free. Good luck!!!

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Newbee

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Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

We did the handfasting with a braided cord near the end of our ceremony, after we exchanged vows and rings. The reverend tied a loose knot around our joined hands, then did a reading once it was removed. We’ll do a renewal on our year and a day anniversary and do a tight knot.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Handfasting is equivalent to a very formal engagement ceremony.  It gives the couple a year of engagement, then if they still agree to the joining, an official wedding is held.

Well, that’s the tradition anyway.  People do it during the wedding ceremony all the time nowadays.

Post # 8
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Newbee

I’ve been doing a lot of research on this too. It seems to me it’s usually after the vows and exchanging of the rings, because each cord seems to symbolize a “blessing,” traditionally, and the blessings are placed on the marriage after it happens, not before. Some people end with it, and it probably makes a nice ending. I like the idea of having our inside hands tied together and using our outside hands to drink to each other, but that’s irrelevant if you want to tie up all four hands together, like if you wanted to do the infinity shape.

Post # 9
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Newbee

@HaumeasHeart:  It’s true that the handfasting was the year and a day engagement, but the wedding after a year and a day was often ALSO done with a handfasting, or the handfasting often replaced the wedding altogether, so it is not totally a modern invention to include it then.

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