(Closed) Handing out invitations at another family wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Is handing out your wedding invitations at another wedding "tacky"?
    Yes! And appalling to boot! : (65 votes)
    81 %
    Maybe, maybe not. On the fence. : (8 votes)
    10 %
    No, not at all! Convenience outweighs! : (7 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    1473 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hm. Not sure about this one. I would say yea, that’s a bit tacky IMO. You are at someones wedding to enjoy the party and to celebrate the bride and the groom, not use it as a way to save some money. I would be a tad bugged if someone did that at my wedding reception. Not to the point of making a big deal about it, just to the point of noticing that it’s rude.

    Post # 4
    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Maybe do it after the wedding if its the only way you can hand them out? Like in the parking lot? Not during the wedding for sure! That would not be okay.

    Post # 5
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Oops. I mis-voted. I meant to say that it would be VERY apalling.

    Post # 6
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    any other family event, fine. but a wedding? no, sorry, not ok. (would you care if it was YOUR wedding and someone else was running around distributing their mail?)

    ETA: yeah, I almost voted wrong too, b/c the title question of the post is pretty much opposite from the question in the poll (if you don’t read carefully it would be easy to miss it…)

    Post # 7
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m not going to lie…it’s kinda weird.  In my circle, we would never do this, but $1.03 is crazy and if your group is more informal, it may be okay.  Biggest checkpoint would be the bride, who i’m assuming is a relative.  Ask her for her honest opinion if she would mind you giving the family invites at the end of the night.  Tell her if she has a problem, you won’t do it.  The day should be focused on her and her husband, not your upcoming wedding.  Think of how you would feel if it were reversed and ask your mom to consider the same if an aunt did that at your wedding.

    Can you find a way to hide/steal/take the invites away from your mom if you don’t feel comfortable doing it?

    ETA: at this point, i’m not even sure if asking the bride is a good idea.  it’s a 4 day countdown to her day and I’m sure she has other things to worry about.

    Post # 8
    2260 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Right away I was going to say no way, but honestly if you do it ask people are leaving from the reception or something I think it might be okay. You are not trying to take away from your cousin’s special day in anyway, and it would save you a ton of money/time.

    Post # 9
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    OMG, do not do this!  I would be horrified if somebody handed me an invitation to their wedding while I was attending another wedding.  Not to mention, it’s just terribly rude…

    Post # 10
    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Run, don’t walk away from this idea. Think how you would feel if that was your wedding and someone else handed out their invitations.

    Post # 12
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    Id be more worried that they would forget it there and not bring it home, not to mention the people who are not invited, but see the invites


    Post # 13
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Just don’t do it suring the ceremony or reception, the day after or maybe earlier in the day.

    Post # 14
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i dont think there would ever be a good/correct time to be handing them out at someone elses wedding.

    i mean before the ceremony is bad, after the ceremony so people are reading the invite during the speaches is very bad plus those not invited will see the invite and some will forget and leave them on the table – its just a really bad idea all round

    although i look forward to the thread about how someone was handing out wedding invites at a bees wedding  🙂

    Post # 15
    1150 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    No because of all the reasons pp offered above but also, what about the other guests! Are they just supposed to smile and nod while your future guests open their invites? How uncomfortable. Tell your mom noooooooooooooo!

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