(Closed) handing out your wedding invitations at someone else’s shower?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Uh, tell her she can’t do that. That is beyond rude.

Not only that, she’s handing out the invitations? She’s not mailing them?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d be annoyed, but you can’t control other people’s actions.  I’m sure your guests will find that SHE’s the one who’s odd and make an effort to accept them discreetly and turn their attention back to the guest of honour – you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did a few invitations by hand because my family gets together often, but if I didn’t have an opportunity that didn’t step on someone else’s toes I would have mailed them, or made my own arrangements. 

I’m definitely not saying that I support her behaviour.  Some people just don’t THINK.

Post # 7
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I moved it for you. = )

I would be pretty fristrated about this myself. The way I see it, once she hands out her invites everyone will shift their focus to her for however long. I’d tell her to hand those suckers out a different day or not go.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

ummm EWWW EWWW EWWW.

Now I am not one for etiquette but I am one for common sense.  Seriously…that’s just disrespectful to you and your hosts.  

I would probably stick my tongue out at her if she did it at my shower but then again..sometimes I like to act like a 5 year (with common sense of course LOL!!! Wink )

Post # 10
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9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@frustrated: no, don’t let her hijack your ring pillow. She can bring one from the bed at the hotel if she’s that desperate to save money.

Post # 11
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

uhhh I would be completely pissed if someone tried to do that. Her convenience should NOT be at your expense.

Post # 12
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What is she thinking?  How many invitations is she handing out?  I would ask that she does it before or after the shower.  Maybe when your girls are either setting up or cleaning up?

I think handing out invitations by hand is okay, but definitely not okay to do it at a friends wedding shower! 

Post # 13
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i totally agree, not nice to hand out invites st your shower!

Post # 15
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It is super tacky to hand out invitation to your party while at someone else’s. Hopefully she’ll do it at the end when people are leaving. She sounds pretty thoughtless. I wouldn’t let her use my ring pillow if you don’t want to! Maybe she wouldn’t mind if the roles were reversed, but don’t do anything that will make you resent her.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That is very rude.. Whos throwing your shower? Maybe they can tell her not to pass out her invitations there because its YOUR shower and its rude. She can pass them out after the party us over perhaps.

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