(Closed) Handling the awkward no +1

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aww, that sucks that your parents have pushed you to nearly triple your original guest list! I think pretty much everyone here knows your pain….

As for the +1…if you really don’t want them to attend, have someone contact the invited person (if they’re your guest, you call them. If they’re your parents’ guest, then your parents can make the call), saying that “While we would love to meet [boyfriend], we’re already at maximum capacity for the wedding venue, so we really can’t fit him in anywhere. I completely understand that this is frustrating for you, but it just can’t happen.” Repeat over and over. Be prepared for her to not want to come to your wedding as a result, but better that than having to fork out extra money for a total stranger!

Post # 4
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I feel your pain. If it is that important to you, your guest will just have to be told that there is no room for her little boy toy. There is a reason there was only one name on the invite. It was rude of herguest to RSVP for two when the invitation was for one.

I have a certain guest getting an invite addressed specifically to her and her alone her name on the invite with no room for write in # of guests (we don’t want her freeloading bf coming b/c even her invitation is an obligatory invite)

Post # 5
5 posts

WOO  haven’t met!

Post # 7
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@LadyElva:  Agreed!


It’s awkward, but you have to ask yourself what would be worse for you: her not attending or a random stranger at your wedding?

Post # 8
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@tampalove35:  I look forward to no RSVPs as well! It makes me feel a little bad, but I try and make myself feel better by thinking that it’s okay because I just want a certain number of people to say no, and not specific people to say no lol. Try not to let it make you feel bad!! :] As far as advice… I guess it depends on how good of friends you guys are. If it’s a really good friend, let the boyfriend come. Otherwise, probably not.

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