Post # 1
Recently I saw a bee comment that she thinks people are more happy when they imagine their happiness about something in the future. I think she is right.
I had been trying to put my finger on happiness and I had decided it has to do with feeling like you got a good deal so that you feel fortunate. This may be true but I think that future thing has something to it.
Sometimes trying to feel happy (and grateful) about the past, past accomplishments ,what’s going on now, and even just being a good person just doesn’t work.
So many of you are feeling happy while planning your dream wedding and maybe thinking about your honeymoon and being married but remember this thread because a crash could come afterwards.
I guess the key would be to move to something else like a new home, your first child, or some other future happy time (maybe being in heaven…lol).
If you’ve mastered happiness, please share…LOL
Post # 3
Happiness & contentment are a matter of balance and perception.
If you can accept what is, without hanging on the the anticipation of “what could be” and without waxing poetic about what was, you can very easily be happy.
At first, accepting what is, accepting the present for nothing more than what it is, can seem depressing, but it only is so if you are unhappy in your present circumstances.
If you are unhappy with some aspect of your life, change it.
You cannot change the past, and you can only guess at the future. The only thing you have any amount of control over is the present (which can affect the future, but the future is never tangible until it becomes the now).
I have not mastered happiness per se, but I have been able to clear my perspective to one that is healthy and fulfilling.
Post # 4
I haven’t mastered happiness, but if something upsets me, I will think about things that do make me happy. I was sad last night, but this morning I got up and painted my bedroom and started on my closet.
It may not be the key to happiness, but doing things to my home makes me happy.
Post # 5
I feel like I have a pretty good grasp on happiness now. I was depressed for years, which taught me a lot about myself and my self-worth. I’m happy because I’m content with myself. I accept my mistakes and ugliness. I wouldn’t change anything in my life, not even the sucky parts, not even the parts I want to change right now. It’s part of me.
I guess my perspective of happiness is more about contendedness than with being happy about stuff or circumstances. I’m happy just to be.
Post # 6
I do think that bee hit on something…at least for me …that whole imagining fun of the future works. That’s why I thought I would share. I’m sure different things work for different people and i couldn’t quite figure out what works for me but that is probably it.
Interestingly enough, with me, contentment doesn’t always match happiness. I’ve been non-content yet very happy (imagining contentment once a goal is achieved…in fact, sometimes non-contentment is a nice motivator). I’ve also been very content yet not particularly happy…lol
I think for me, I need to have some goals that are achievable and that I think will bring some fun. Imagining achieving the goal and knowing I’m on the path to that goal adds some happiness for me.
Post # 7
That no regrets thing is cool for those of you who feel you are with your soulmates because you can always imagine if you changed one thing (good or bad) you would not have met your soulmate. lol
So then you have a clean slate and would only be able to consider the things after you met. lol
It is true regrets can bring unhappiness.
Post # 8
One more point I should mention about regrets. One thing that’s interesting is it can be like a chicken and egg thing. If you are sad about something else, it can make you think of other sad things and sometimes you think you are sad because you have regrets about those times but really, the only reason you are thinking about those times is because you were sad in the first place. It is not that those regrets made you sad. Later you will be happy and those same things will be there but you won’t think about them.
Just something I’ve noticed…lol
Post # 9
“Happiness is wanting what you have”
Post # 10
I guess. Sometimes that works for contentment for me but perhaps for the present there would have to be a feeling of feeling fortunate or feeling like I got a good deal or it could have been worse. lol
It’s hard not to take for granted what you have.
Sometimes I’m most happy when it is better than I expected.
The present is tricky…lol
That future thinking is good for me. I wonder if others are the same.