Post # 17
I think we’re being a tad… rebellious by expecting to get engaged so soon. I have talked to him about putting it off and transferring to a different college. I am already changing majors from what my parents wanted me to study to what I would like to pursue, and I can definitely find a job and a lifestyle that could make me more independent.
Post # 18
Okay, I am from a totally different life background-not particularly religious families, educated in state schools, have lived with boyfriends, etc.
Some practical advice: I have a lot of school debt from graduate school and it feels almost crippling sometimes. Don’t turn away from that support- you are only in college and believe me, I’m in the mental health field- if you want to have a career in it you’ll need more education. Take the loans out then and not in undergrad.
Give yourself some time. 20 is super young. I think even 25 is young to marry. Give your relationship some time, finish school, let your parents get used to the idea. Then you can marry later. You definitely have time.
Post # 19
I’m sorry it seems so restrictive. From my angle, I don’t ahvea problem with your families telling you you’re too young to marry, or not approving of you livinig together. But I personally, don’t see a problem in dating. (Is the hold up with your parents, jsut your ages, or do they not like your Fi?)
I undertand the mentality of the type of school your in, where everyone is encouraged to get married, so they can have sex, without burning in hell. But I don’t know that getting married before you’re ready is the answer either.
My suggestion would be to cool it a bit. If you can spend time together, great. But also take this time to focus on your studies, so you can have your careers in good places before you get married and start a family. It’s much easier to establish a career, then start a family. Rather than start a family, then start a career. And if you get married while you’re in college, or shortly after, you will probably have children before you can even have job experience.