(Closed) Happy but not sure we were really ready…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Anyone else have the same mixed-emotions?
    Yes - completely understand where you're coming from : (104 votes)
    96 %
    No : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not pregnant but I would say that is 150% normal. You’ve just changed your life forever, freaking out is definitely allowed! I’m sure you’ll handle it well, we always find a way.

    Congratuations! Being freaked out is normal, but make sure you let yourself be excited too!

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My dh and I were ttc for a year and the last 2 cycles were with clomid. We were experiencing fertility issues and I still had a “what did we do” moment after we found out I was pregnant. It’s a HUGE step for anyone and it’s completely normal to be scared! It’s something you can never take back or cancel. I’m 21 weeks pregnant and I still have moments of panic when I think about how much care a baby needs and how much our lives are going to change forever. But excitement definitly outweighs the fear:)

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    First off, CONGRATS!!

    Trying to get pregnant and being pregnant are two completely different feelings..

    I think youre alittle still in the “shock” moment which happens, its alot to process especially if this is your first child!

    Take it easy and enjoy it, don’t let the feelings get to you!

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee

    @Cece:  If I compare you to me, 100% normal 🙂 I had the same “freaked out” reaction for about two weeks after the bfp.

     

    “I still have moments of panic when I think about how much care a baby needs and how much our lives are going to change forever. But excitement definitly outweighs the fear:)” – well said.

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I think that’s pretty normal 🙂 My SIL and Brother-In-Law just had a baby after (we assume) a bit of trying and she said even though all their friends had kids – they still didn’t feel prepared!

     

    I have random dreams where I’m pregnant sometimes, and usually it’s ok, but this week I had one that seemed so real and it freaked me out! All I could think was how we weren’t ready yet. So glad to wake up, lol!

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Totally normal!

    Darling Husband and I were actively trying and I was even really excited to get my bfp, but I’ve DEFINITELY had my moments of “What the heck was I thinking?” Especially in the 1st trimester where I was very tired and feeling terrible…. made me question if we had really made the right decision.

    Thankfully, that does pass & now I’m 100% really excited as the arrival of our new lo arrives.

    I wouldn’t beat yourself up, it’s a MAJOR adjustment to think about actually being a parent… just take it one day at a time & start to enjoy the process. =)

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We were also very actively trying and became slightly terrified when we got our bfp 🙂 It took forever to sink in (I still don’t know if it completely has and we’re almost 20 weeks). Somedays it seems like everything will be fine and other days it’s like ohmygodI’mgoingtobeamominfivemonths. We waited to tell parents/everyone, which was one of the hardest parts. Now that I have my mom to talk to/ask questions, it seems much more manageable. Congratulations!!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Yep!!! Completely normal!

    We tried for ten months before we got our BFP and I spent lots of time thinking about how to get pregnant and not a whole lot thinking about what would happen once we actually managed to get pregnant!

    When we first started telling people, all I wanted to do was cry!

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Congratulations!

    Like @JewishBride:, Darling Husband and I actively tried to get pregnant for over a year, and both times I got BFPs I sat on the floor in the bathroom, staring at the pregnancy test, having a silent panic attack. 

    And like JewishBride said, it’s a huge responsibility, a huge life-altering step, and once you’ve committed to it, you can’t take it back. It’s the biggest committent you can possibly make. Even your decision to get married can be reversed, but you will always be a mother to this child. So I absolutely think it’s normal to worry. At 18 weeks, I still have moments of doubt and worry, wondering if I can handle raising a child, stressing that I’m going to fail at being a parent. But most of the time I’m so excited and grateful for this baby that I could burst.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I also had a..to put it kindly..a meltdown when I found out. I found out while I was in the midst of a stomach flu (seriously! not morning sickness) and I was like, “What the F did I sign up for?!” Then I started thinking of all the money “issues” (not because of baby, but just generally speaking), jobs, school etc etc! 

    In fact – the way I told my husband (I was sick!) was, “We have a little problem..” Not my proudest moment, but I was freaked. Once you share the news with someone, and start to get used to the idea, it gets better – I promise! But you definitely are NOT alone in thinking that!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Uh yeah, the first word out of my mouth looking at the pee stick was “Shit.”

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I was just having the same conversation with a friend last night.  She and her husband are not sure when they will start trying and her husband said, “i just don’t think we’re ready yet”.  So, guess what? Most people are never going to feel ready, even after you’ve made the conscious decision that it’s time to start trying.  When I got my bfp, I freaked out, and continued to be scared/nervous/anxious but excited for several weeks. Now I’m 6 wks down the road from that day and it’s starting to settle in better.  I continue to worry about what we will do for childcare and how we are going to balance our work with spending time with baby, and how much it will all cost.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @KatyElle:  I said “holy sh**”, lol

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