(Closed) Happy but not sure we were really ready…

posted 10 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Anyone else have the same mixed-emotions?

    Yes - completely understand where you're coming from

    No

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Totally normal!  Like Jewishbride said – It took us 8 months and a miscarriage before I got and stayed pregnant with this baby (and will be almost 32 when baby is born).  I still have had moments of feeling SO NOT ready and I’m 29 weeks along.  Having a baby is the biggest game changer of one’s life and I almost think it would be weirder to NOT have these feelings once in a while ; )

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Even though we had been trying, I remember looking at the double lines and thinking, “ooooo, so a BFP doesn’t mean Yay I can get pregnant! It means I’m having a baby no matter what, no turning back, my life has changed forever.” 

     

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    we’re not TTC for a couple months, but i still get these moments, of, holy crap, are we really going to do this. so i’m sure whenever the BFP happens, I’ll have a holy S*** kind of reaction!

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We were trying actively when we got pregnant. It was a huge shock. For one, I didn’t think that we would get the summer baby my husband wanted. I was resigned to the fact that it would take a bit longer, then boom pregnant. I even mentioned it the other day that I’m due in August. It just doesn’t seem real at times despite a few ultrasounds and hearing the heartbeat recently. I’m sort of showing right now, more like fat and baby melding together that it’s beginning to seem more real.

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Im so glad I found this thread!

     

    When we got our bfp, (after one BD attempt, one cycle) we just sat there, stunned and said nothing.

    about a week later I was driving with my DH and it hit me, I was crying so hard I had to pull the car over-

    My Body, My Career, My social life!!!

     

     

    6.5 months in and we are absolutely loving feeling the baby kick and squirm – making plans and my Hubby is so excited!

     

    Still terrified about the prospect of being responsible for a baby though!!

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Its ok girl!!! I know your feelings. I actually was bawling my eyes out when I found out..lol. Social life…wine…sleep…nights out….YOUTH!!! aaaahhhhhhhh!!! That was me 8 months ago. And now, I could not be happier when I feel my baby girl playing inside of me haha ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m still a work in progress though, I still have moments of missing my “old life.” But, I love my fiance and our baby with all my heart…and wouldn’t trade them for anything that my old life had to offer. Which, in all honesty (for me), wasn’t really that much. Sure, I miss the freedom sometimes…but its like life has a purpose now…I’m not sure how else to explain it other than a quote I once saw: “Life begins when we start living for something other than ourselves.”

    Best wishes mama! You can do it!!!

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    we werent really trying and yes we were kinda freaked out as well..  its a process to get used to the idea of having a baby… I’m 36 weeks and I still have moments where I feel like I’m not ready

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m glad to know I wasn’t the only one who took a test and was like, “Whaaaat….?” After showing DH, both of us just kind of sat there like, “Now what?”

    I’m about 18 weeks now, and I think we’re finally getting used to the fact that we are actually having a baby. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I was happy to see the BFP but throughout the pregnancy felt a little bit of impending doom. We would be in a car and I would think “this is my last relaxing car ride ever” or we would be in the airport and I would look at those with kids and feel sorry for how hectic things looked.  Or I would be tired at work and wonder how the heck other people managed when they had kids to deal with on top of it all.  and so on and so on.    its normal!!!  And coming from a person who was never a baby/kid person, all I can say is my thinking now is “why didn’t people tell me how darn FUN it is to be a parent?”  its awesome, just trust in that ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I can totally relate! I swear, whenever I used to go out with a pregnant friend or sibling for dinner or drinks, and I would see how big they were getting, how they were slow getting around, had to order their food well done, and had to drink mocktails instead of cocktails. I swear, I would savor that sweet alcoholic elixer that much more, just grateful to NOT be the pregnant one.

    By the same token I was jealous of people with 5 year olds because the worst is over for them and I hadnt even started my years of suffering for what I knew I’d eventually really want. Well, now I pregnant, it sucks and I’m panicked about having a newborn. I’m starting to wonder if maybe I’m the type of person who should have adopted an older child instead, since i’m not interested in those younger years where I essentially have to give up my own life as I know it.

    After 10 months of trying to get Pregnant, I too sat on the floor with the test, staring and panicking in wonderment. I’m 23 weeks now and still panicking… wondering if I will be a good mom, have the patience for a child, if I made the right choice… I’m so glad I’m not alone.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    @PandasWifey:  Now that I have a toddler I can tell you that I am in NO hurry for him to be 5…..I love every part of it and I NEVER liked babies/toddlers/kids before…..you don’t have to give up your life, people scared the crap out of me with that stuff.

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