(Closed) Happy but….?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Waiting isn’t as fun at it sounds!  It’s so stressful and not fun most of the time.  Are you two waiting until after graduation?  My husband and I got engaged young, had a long engagement and were married last year at 21/22.  Try to enjoy the time you are engaged!

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Post # 5
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I understand. My Fiance completely surprised me when he proposed. I was 22. I was six months out of college and we had just moved in together. Talk about a lot of life changes! 

Our solution was to have a long engagement. He proposed in February, and I knew I wanted a late summer wedding. Both of us were OK planning it two years out. (By the time of our wedding this August, we will have been engaged for 2.5 years)

Honestly, we waited mostly to save money and because I wasn’t ready to plan a wedding yet. People have asked questions about it, but who cares? I’m SO glad we had a long engagement. I’ve been able to plan things how I want them and I haven’t been stressed out about our wedding. Plus, we’ve grown so much closer as a couple.

Post # 6
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that the engagement sweetens the relationship, but not that waiting really sweetens the engagement.  Use your long engagement to revel in your relationship and enjoy the time leading up to getting married.

Post # 7
Member
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I understand how you feel.  I had been dating my husband for 1 year and 3 months before he proposed.  I knew he was the one and we already lived together, but I couldn’t help being in shock about the proposal.  I think it was because everyone else in my family had been dating MUCH longer when they got engaged (like 3-5) years, so I just didn’t expect it.  Also, I had gotten laid off from my job 6 months before that and had been working in restaurants to make ends meet.  I think that I had always pictured myself being in a better place financially and career wise before getting engaged. I of course said yes, but it took me several months to come to terms with what it meant, and with the fact that life isn’t perfect and I should be happy to be with the man I love regardless of career, etc.  We decided to have a longer engagement- 1 1/2 years, which definitely helped.  

Post # 9
Member
1046 posts
Bumble bee

Getting engaged young can be confusing.. I get where you’re coming from. Just do a long engagement!

Post # 12
Member
759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i am only 21. fh is 24 (will be 25 when we get married). i havnt yet had anyone be rude or give me the “youre too young speech” maybe they say it behind my back?? i dont know. but what i do know is that my friends and family are happy i am happy and they support me.

and most of FH’s friends are engaged or married and they are all my age. so that makes me feel better about it. in general people are getting married young these days and a lot of them wont last for that reason..

but whats the rush…if you want to wait then good for you…that doesnt change your relationship right.

just make sure you know what you want and do what you want and it’ll all work out .i know from experience, dont let other people talk you into things or make decisions for you because in the end you will be the unhappy one trying to please other peopleSmile

Post # 13
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had the opposite issue. FH and I had a timeline in our minds and things didn’t work out. We had to wait longer than we planned to get engaged. It hurt at the time, but now we are getting married at the right time (in our eyes). We had to do what works for us. People made a lot of comments (some of them rude), but at the end of the day, things worked out how they were supposed to. Now, after almost 7.5 years of dating, we are getting married in a few weeks.  

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