- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I stumbled on to this site a few months ago really enjoyed lurking, then after I became engaged I thought I would officially join 🙂 My title really says it all, I am very happy but I didn’t really expect to get engaged so young. I am 22, almost 23 and working on my masters in Mechanical Engineering, so some of the guys are married but I am one of a handful of girls and the only one engaged.
My fiance and I have been together since I was 18, he already has his B.S. in Bio engineering and will have is Ph.D in Neuroscience by 26. (He is 23 now) When he applied to grad school he was offered an IGERT fellowship, this means he gets free tuition and a pretty sizable stipend, it also means NSF and Cornell own him, and he now lives in NY. So after 3 years of living with him, he had to move and we both now live alone 🙁
But I have our puppy!! (All 107 lbs of her)
We have done fine with the distance, it is only Maine to New York so we see each other every other weekend. I don’t have any doubts that I want to marry him, he is truly my best friend. Our life goals and aspirations are incredibly in sync and for the past 4.5 years he has made me so happy. Everyone in our lives is thrilled for us.
I suppose it was just SUCH a surprise. After the Macy’s parade we walked through central park in the snow and he pulled out a little blue box!
(I know its bad, but I am a Tiffany’s girl, all my jewelry is from there, so when he proposed it didn’t shock me that he went there) And I was so happy! I do love my ring!
But I almost feel disappointed.
I expect people to say I am too young, or not ready. But actually everyone is supportive. They say how great a couple we are, how responsible and driven we are, and how impressively independent I am. I think in my head he should have waited. I love him and am sure of this. I can’t stress that enough. But why not wait until I am 24? I don’t want to even think of planning a wedding yet, and we still aren’t going to get married for a few years.
I am that person that has too many lists and timelines. I love label makers. Everything needs plans and guidelines. Works great for my field, but I fully realize its not great to always be a control freak. I know I want to marry him someday. So why do I feel cheated?
Cheated because i never got that thrill of waiting? Of wondering if he bought me a ring? It was really a shock. I suppose after the length of time we have been together people would laugh at it being a surprise, but we are usually so practical. Sorry its long, but any advice on what is wrong with me?
I don’t think its that I wasn’t ready for engagement, I just think I wasn’t prepared for it to occur at this point in time? And someone please tell me I am not the only one who felt like this?