Member- Ginger123
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
When it rains, it pours!
Darling Husband moved out to CA from the East Coast last year after he graduated from law school so that we could get engaged and so that I could finish my last year of law school. He had already taken the Maryland bar exam and had a clerkship with a judge lined up and everything, but decided to put it all aside so we could be together in the same place. He proposed last September, then spent the last year studying for the CA bar exam, helping me plan our March 2011 wedding, and supporting me through MY bar exam in July. He applied to hundreds and hundreds of jobs and went on dozens and dozens of interviews. We had glimmers of hope for a few positions, but they never panned out.
We managed okay financially between my job teaching college courses, financial aid, his savings, odd jobs, and his veteran’s benefits (DH is ex military), but he’s so smart and eager to work that I know it was frustrating for him at times. But early on we made a decision to not fret about the job situation and instead focus on the fact that we would probably never have another season in our life again where we could be together, just the two of us, 24/7. We haven’t had a lot of money, but we’ve spent every day together for the last 14 months and it has just been so amazing to have my best friend with me all day, every day, through all the highs and lows of the last year.
I start my new job on Tuesday, so we really tried to make the most of August knowing that our year of being conjoined twins was ending. I was worried that it would make Darling Husband sad/frustrated to see me go off to work all day, so we started making a lot of longterm goals to keep us motivated and to remind ourselves of the big picture when things got tough. We set a budget, decided on a schedule to pay back our school loans, came up with a savings plan based on our current earnings, agreed to start TTC in 2012 come hell or high water (we’re 30), and set an ambitious goal to be in our own home by the time we have a kid. We spent days and days talking and praying about our plan and it made both of us feel good to know that even if it took a while for Darling Husband to find a full-time gig, we’d still be able to get by and meet our goals – just slower than he’d hoped.
Then suddenly Darling Husband got approached by a CEO who needed some legal work done, so he decided to take the bull by his horns and start his own law practice. He signed his first client the 1st week of August and had his first filing by the end of the 2nd week. His client was so happy with the work, he promised to send him more this month. Then he got a call from a college he’d applied to lecture at in July but never heard from. He walked in last week, made his presentaiton, and was offered a teaching position on the spot. Then THIS week he got a phone call from a federal agency he’d applied to in March and interviewed with in May. We’d written this job off because we never heard back, but now suddenly they wanted to hire him too!
As if that wasn’t crazy enough, after we sat down and talked about it, we realized that he could actually do all three things at once! Because of the nature of the work he’d be doing, DH’s government position wouldn’t create any conflicts of interest with his part-time private practice. He would just have to work on his client work on the evenings or weekends. Which is perfect because his government position allows him to have flexible work hours and/or telecommute, which would allow him to keep up with his practice and free up his schedule to lecture once a week at the college.
So after 14 months of looking, my husband now has THREE jobs in the span of a month! It will be hectic for a while, I’m sure, but he’s so ready and excited to work full-time that he’s rarin’ to go! Because we have our “dream plan” in place, he just wants to bust his butt and accellerate the pace of everything we have written down. I’m so proud of him and so excited for our little family I could dance!
