Post # 16
Love this! No kids yet, but my 2-year-old neice loves me. My SIL does not allow her to have candy. BUT, the exception is made when I am around lol. I have a big bag of candy in my pantry. And when she comes over, she takes my hand and leads me to the pantry and looks up at me with the most angelic look in the entire world.
Post # 17
You are ALL so amazing and have amazing children!! These are the stories that need to be put in the news. These are the moments everyone should be able to hear about and cherish. You all made me tear up with happiness as I read each of your posts. Keep the stories coming! <3
Post # 18
My Brother-In-Law is a super sarcastic guy. He has a little boy and a little girl. When we dropped him off at the airport at our last visit he said “You have no idea what is about to happen to you. Just wait. It’s going to be amazing. Your lives are going to change forever and you have no idea how much better it will be.” And then to my husband he said “Make sure you get in there, don’t be afraid to be right there when he’s born, it’ll be like nothing you’ve ever experienced. I can’t wait to see you go through it.”
Because he’s so sarcastic, I thought he was messing with us. But no, he actually, legitimately feels that way. And he’s so stoked to become an uncle, again, for the 7th time. He is such a doting, hands on dad, to both his kids. And I know Darling Husband really looks up to him. I can’t wait to see Darling Husband with our son. He’s been so fantastic throughout the pregnancy, I know he’s going to be a great dad.
Post # 19
Around the age of 40, as a single woman, I adopted a little girl. Had always really, really wanted children, but stuff kept getting in the way, a demanding career, chronic health problems, and oh yeah, I wasn’t even married.
Heard so many negative comments over the years, so many people tried to discourage me, especially since I was considering doing this as a single woman.
i am sooo glad I did not listen to any of these naysayers and went ahead. Being a mom has been wonderful! I would not trade it for anything. I just regret not having kids sooner and only having one.
You will face some tough going in the teen years, probably no matter how great of a mom you are, especially mother-daughter. I got along well with my daughter until about age 16. She is now 17, and the last couple of years have been tough. I have to remind myself that I was so much worse and this won’t go on forever. It does not change the way I feel about having chosen to be a mom.
I think how much you want kids and how much you like kids is a huge factor. A couple of the women who strongly discouraged me previously had become moms through unplanned pregnancies while they were single.
It helped a lot that I was over 40, had already had plenty of years to focus on me, and had decided that wasn’t all I wanted in life.
Post # 20
Being a mom is hard for sure at times. It’s mundane, and annoying at times. and it’s so exhausting. Sometimes at the end of the day I am so tired every bone in my body hurts. But then, my daughter (17 months) looks at me and smiles, or grabs the back of my head and kisses me, or says mama and nothing else matters and I love her even more than I did a second ago. I never really wanted kids, just figured that’s what you do, but it’s the best thing to ever happen to me. It’s truly amazing that I can’t even put it into words. The negative things used to scare me too, but now I read them and just roll my eyes. I feel bad if those people feel that way, but it’s not everyone’s experience and I think sometimes it’s exaggerated for page views.
Post # 21
avarose: I’m only 4 months pregnant, so our son won’t be here until the end of December. However, I’ve been an aunt to a precious little girl for 5 1/2 years. I called her yesterday to tell her (DH and I wanted to tell her directly) that we found out we’re having a little boy. My little sister (her other aunt) had picked her up from daycare and, not knowing we wanted to tell her ourselves, told her. My little sister said she asked my niece if she cared if the baby was a boy or girl and my niece said no. When she told her the baby was a boy, my niece jumped with excitement and shouted “I’m so excited! That’s what I wanted!” When I called to talk with her and said “****, Uncle ****** and I are having a baby boy!” she squeled and just began chattering away. Today she had her mom (my older sister) send me a drawing she had made and ask me if it was okay to hang up at my baby shower. She has been the only grandchild and only niece/nephew for over 5 years and she is so excited to be a big cousin. Just her joy and how much she already cares for her baby cousin is astounding. Kids are like that. Just so capable of love and kindness.
Post # 22
I have a 6 year old girl and a 7 year old boy and I swear I would be lost without them.They are so entirely awesome, funny, respectful and kind. My little girl always tells me she wants to live with me forever and that she will never stop wanting to ‘kiss and hug her mom every single day.’
I would never trade this experience for all the gold in China.They make me want to be better.
Post # 23
I was nervous about how my relationship with my husband would change once we had children, but it’s only gotten better. We are even more of a team now, and we have so much fun as a family! Life is busier than before, but there is still time for us to do things for ourselves. We just need to make our own needs a priority.
It’s so fun seeing the world through a child’s eyes, and it gives us an excuse to do all the fun kid things (activities, games, etc) we haven’t done since we were kids ourselves.
Post # 24
I LOVE being a mom. I did not think I would. My husband wanted kids…and I kind of went along with it. I was actively anti-child for most of my 20s, and really thought that I would be child-free for the rest of my life. It was when my husband came home one night, though, from work, and we were talking about his best friend’s kids, how awesome they were, that something kind of clicked inside of me. He said he wouldn’t mind if maybe we had a kid, and I thought “why not”, so we started trying.
Best choice I’ve ever made. Honestly. The love I feel for my daughter is intense, overwhelming and wonderful, all at the same time. Watching her grow into a little human being, with her own personality, has probably been the most fun part. Also, my daughter has made me a better person, overall. I realize that I needed to actively confront my issues, so that I could be a better role model and mother for my daughter.
The naysayers are going to nay. Raising a kid is really, really hard, but I’ve found it to be super worthwhile. And my marriage is stronger, I think, because of us raising a kid. We’re like soldiers in the trenches together
Post # 25
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Not a parent yet but I had a project at work where as part of it we asked a bunch of nine and ten year olds what they would change about the world if they could. One girl didn’t even stop to think about it, just said “I wish that every child in the world could have a childhood like mine.” Still makes me tear up now thinking about it. I hope that when we have kids they share that sentiment.