Post # 1
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Bumble bee
hello young brides out there! or brides who got married at a young age 🙂
I’ve gotten a lot of support on my journey to be married soon, but occasionally there are those who say are you sure this is what you want? you’re so young.. do you really want to be with him till the day you die?
I think about it and I really can’t imagine NOT marrying my Fiance.
and yesterday I had a talk with my friend that made me realize I really wouldn’t trade getting married to being single in my 20’s.
all my close girlfriends seem to be with guys who don’t know what they want and don’t even want to be an official couple, they just want to date… and see what happens. I used to be polite about this but now I just say why do you put up with that crap? why be with someone who can’t even commit to you or just wants to be dating friends or whatever the hell that is (sorry for the language)
I’m so happy that even though I’m only 21 (22 in about 10 days :D) I found a MAN who is so willing to commit to me and be completely happy with me being the only woman in his life.. any ladies out there feel the same way? or similar? that you feel like you’re NOT missing out on the dating life by being married young.??
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@pandaboo: my DH and I met when we were 18 and 19! We became engaged two years later, at 20 and 21 (he’s 6 months younger than me, born in Oct), and married at 22 and 23. We got many, many comments about being young, but I’ve come to realize in life that everything you do, someone may have a comment on it.
For instance, we’re about to start trying to conceive, and haven’t told anyone because we don’t want to deal with the comments. All we’ve heard already is how we should wait to have a baby, buy a house, have time to ourselves. Well – we have no interest in buying a house, and have been together 4.5 years!
I totally don’t feel like we missed out on anything. In fact, I feel blessed that we found each other young, because we have more time together. 🙂
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I met my Fiance when I was 20 and he was 22. Right now I’m 23 and he’s 25 (turning 24 and 26 when we get married). I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I couldn’t imagine being single in my 20s either. I think guys nowadays are getting shady-er and shady-er…or it could just be my location. I think if I didn’t find him I would be single forever! I have a long track record of dating guys that treat me terribly. My Fiance is the only guy that commited to me really. He was going down a not so good path and when he met me he changed because he wanted to better himself for me and our future. He moved 700 miles away from his family to live with me and my family. We stayed together after serious financial issues and after 5 months of long distance. We have moved all over in the past few years (Michigan, Grand Canyon, Maine, Pennsylvania) and we have done it together. He’s my partner in crime and I love that we have done so much together that we are able to share with each other.
While I do love my Fiance and am happy with our relationship I wish that PRIOR to meeting him I did more stuff because I can’t do it now. I always wanted to do the Disney College Program, study a semester abroad, work more summer jobs at National Parks, backpack through Europe etc. I could not imagine leaving him even for a few months to do that…I think it would be very selfish. I realize that I’m lucky to have what I have and that some people can’t even find someone that’s willing to date them longer than a month, are getting lied to, cheated on, etc.
I did not date much before meeting me Fiance (well I kinda did but most lasted a WEEK), but I am so glad I do not have the pressures of dating. I don’t like the whole getting to know each other stage
Post # 5
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Worker bee
i married at 21, dh was 31. wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I’m also 21 and engaged, and quite happy 🙂
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@pandaboo: I understand that you are happy and ready to comitt someone, but you really shouldn’t criticize your friends who aren’t ready for that kind of life yet (or ever, there is no rule saying you have to get married to be happy). To each their own, you know?
I am 25, I will be 27 when I get married. It feels super young to me, but then, I am not the marrying kind by nature. I just found someone I wanted to spend my life with at 25. You found that person at 21. And your friends may find them at 24, 34 or 44.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I am only 19, and we are planning a wedding for the summer of 2013. We have been together since I was 14. I never thought I wanted to get married, but we had a unplanned pregnancy two years ago, and that completely changed my life around! I would definitly not have it any other way! I am so glad that I am going to be with him the rest of my life, he is an amazing guy, and an amazing father!! The worst part of getting married at a young age is since in still in University I never have time to plan. So to sum everything up I definitly don’t think we missed out on anything, we both both still go out with friends now and then, I wouldnt change anything for the world!
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
Some people actually want to date, not everyone is looking for a serious relationship. I was lucky to be with my husband from the age of 20, engaged at 23, and married at 25. My sister is 21 and single, and she couldn’t even imagine being in a serious relationship, let alone married. My bff is my age, and single, and able to focus on finishing college.
You are very lucky to find your husband at a young age, but not everyone is. I would think most of your friends just have different priorities
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I’m 21 right now and FH is turning 27 in a couple of weeks. We have another year to go until we get married, and I wish we could do it tomorrow!
I had my first boyfriend when I was 14 and it lasted 2 years, since then I’ve met a couple of guys and none of them compare to my FH! I’m thinking 6 years of dealing with a**holes is enough. I cannot imagine going through more of that 😀 I’m so glad I found FH and grateful every day that he’s willing to spend the rest of his life with me. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
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Honey bee
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Post # 12
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Bumble bee
@Rubies: I am not criticizing my friends at all. I just feel bad for some of them because it seems like they give their whole heart to a guy and the guy does not return that back which leaves them heartbroken.
example- my friend really liked this guy, she even says she thinks she was in love with him. but after 6 months of dating, he told her he still didn’t know what he wanted and that he wasn’t ready to commit to her as a boyfriend and that if they could just be friends for a little longer before taking it to the next level. she was heartbroken and told him I cannot be your friend with the feelings I have for you. & ended things with him because she couldn’t stand to wait around for someone who doesn’t know what he wants.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
I found a MAN who is so willing to commit to me and be completely happy with me being the only woman in his life..
everyone has their own path to follow . my sister met her husband when she was 15yrs/he was 18yrs and they have now been married over 30yrs. me, i was 30yrs when i met my husband and he was almost 40 when we married – doesnt make him any less of a man than your Fiance and i didnt suffer heartache or loneliness because i was single
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
ok maybe I wrote this wrong.. I am not saying EVERYONE should be committing. I am saying that 3 of my close girlfriends are ready to commit but they CANNOT find a guy who is and I just wish they could find someone who is as ready as they are.
I am in NO way saying that everyone should get married young. HECK NO. some people are definetely not ready. I am just saying that I’ve seen my friends want to commit but they can’t find someone who wants to commit as well or they find a guy who keeps playing games with them.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@eloping: I am in no way saying people who don’t get married till a later age suffer or are lonely, I am just saying that it’s hard for some younger women who want to settle down in a serious relationship (not just marriage, but have someone who they can call their Boyfriend)
I’m just speaking from what I see with my friends because I really do feel for them because they all seem to really put their heart out there for the guys they’re dating and they don’t get that back.. :/
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
@pandaboo: i get it but i also feel that some women should focus less on finding someone to marry and work on their own personal happiness and independance and good things will be drawn to them from their positive attitude – nothing is worse than a woman desperate to hook up because the alternative is being single
i also feel that you should be a little bit less judgy (not saying this in a bad way so please dont feel that i am) as you are at risk of becoming one of “those” women that others avoid because your focus in on couple’dom and single friends can get a bit sick fo that – which then leads to friends not caring/brides complaining about awol bridesmaids. i understand your happiness is wonderful right now and you hope that others get their time to be just as happy but not everyone is as lucky to meet someone special at a young age