(Closed) happy to marry at a young age! not missing out!

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@vmec: That wasn’t very nice. I’m pretty sure the OP created this thread for support. You didn’t have to post if you didn’t agree with her excitement. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@pandaboo: You’re welcome 🙂 

I’m 22 and getting married in two weeks. I’ve been with my man since 19 and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He has been amazingly supportive in everything I have done, and I look at some of my friends who have had bad experiences with their parents getting married, etc, and feel badly that others ruined their perception on marriage. 

I had someone come up to me the other week (the bf of one of my high school friends to be exact) and he said “I hope that works out for you. I really do. Don’t let that piece of paper get in the way of your love. My parents married and that paper ruined everything they had.” It’s sad to think he’d blame that paper as the reason his parent’s marriage, not logically coming to the realization that they had issues before they got married.

But yes, for me I think once you know that he or she is the one, you just know. It doesn’t matter what age you are, it matters how mature you are, and where you are in life. Ya know? 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have no idea why people are being rude to you about this post. Some people just come on here to pick apart people, so just ignore it! Good for you for finding the man you want to spend the rest of your life with at such a young age!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@pandaboo:  Hi there! I didn’t marry young, but I met my Darling Husband when we were 17..dated almost 10 years before we got married.  I have plenty of girlfriends that are single, in their 20’s, and I get what you are saying.. I wouldn’t want to be in a lot of their shoes either…My sister is in her late 20’s now and has spent ALL of her 20’s looking for love…she has had her heart broken too many times to count…the dating world is pretty tough!

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@pandaboo: Awww, thank you! You’re day isn’t too far away either. I bet you are super excited!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I met my SO when I was 18 and he was 23. We’ve been together for two years now and we’re planning on getting engaged next year. I’ve been more like a housewife than a partying college student ever since we met and I’ve never been happier. I don’t understand what everyone thinks I’m missing out on.

I’m not into sleeping around and drinking and just being a party girl. I’m into being loved and cared for and loving and caring for someone in return. I’m proud of where I’m at and I’m so tired of people being down on me for it just because I’m “young.”

Age is only a number.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@pandaboo: I understand what you’re saying.  I’m happy to have married young too.  Darling Husband and I were 22 when we got engaged and 23 when we were married and I wouldn’t change a thing. 

Sure, some women wait till they’re older and that’s totally fine if they make that choice or don’t find “the one” until later in life.  I, however, am glad that I married very young.  I don’t feel like I’m missing out on ANYTHING by being married now and I don’t think I’ll look back at the end of my life and regret it.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s hard for those of us who are older not to comment when we know that so much change and development is on the horizon for those of you who are in your early 20s.  it’s an exciting time! 

I hope that you are supported as your identity continues to develop and that you encourage similar growth in your spouses.  🙂

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

@MissComicBook:I’m not into sleeping around and drinking and just being a party girl. I’m into being loved and cared for and loving and caring for someone in return

I know you didn’t mean for it to sound like that but…this could be read as if you haven’t found/aren’t trying to find your soulmate at a young age, you are a drunk whore. Dating is what you make it. I enjoyed dating and meeting new people. I wasn’t trying to find my soulmate, I just wanted to “do me”. I happened to find my SO at 21. But as much as you don’t like people telling you that you are missing out, people don’t like being insulted for being serial daters.

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Fiance and I met when we were juniors in highschool and both 16. We got engaged when he was 21 and I was 20 and we’ll get married when we’re both 22. We know we’re young and we still have a lot of growing to do, but we’ve also both grown a lot since we’ve been together. We’ve supported each other through a lot too, the deaths of people very close to us, unemployment, a house fire, moving across the county, among other things. We’re excited to continue our lives together and get married in March!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MissCallieJean: I think what she meant is that other people sometimes comment about younger people getting married, suggesting “wouldn’t they want more time to find themselves, to party, or to ‘date other people’.” 

 

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