(Closed) happy to marry at a young age! not missing out!

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@MsBrooklynA:

You said exactly what I was thinking. I hear all the time how I should have lived more before I got married, I got married at 25 a few months ago, but I wonder at the women who feel like getting married = buying an adequate house in a sleepy suburb and start popping out kids, (no offense if this is what you want, but people who know me understand its not what I want but still seemed to think its what would happen to me once I got married regardless.)  I married my husband because we have similar goals, including our desire to travel the world. Both of us have already traveled on our own and we are looking forward to doing it together even more. No, I have never been able to have a job that paid well and lived in my own apartment (I always had roomates) but I have had the run of a household since I was 13, I know how to take care of myself and other people better than most women my age and you know, for once its nice to have someone in my corner helping me. I much prefer married life to my single life and I wouldnt give it up for the world. My husband and I will grow, travel, and live together. Our lives didnt end the day we got married, they started.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@KatyElle: Agreed, and it annoys me.

I look at it this way: being married, so far, is not any different than just dating. There are shockingly few things I CAN’T do now that I’m married that I could do when I was single. And so far, sleeping around seems to be the only thing I’m “missing out” on.

The trick is to find a partner who is like-minded and wants to experience new things as well. Life doesn’t end when you get married. You don’t stop being your own person just because there’s a ring on your finger.

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Annabelle86: My husband and I will grow, travel, and live together. Our lives didnt end the day we got married, they started.

 

Totally agree and beautifully written πŸ™‚

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@pandaboo: I think it’s great that you’re getting married young, it gives you the opportunity to grow and mature together. I know one couple from way back in my high school days who married at about 18 and are STILL married and very happy. It was a beautiful thing to see them “grow up” together (don’t take that the wrong way πŸ˜‰ ).

Post # 53
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband & I started dating at 15 & 17, we got married at the ages of 19 & 21 & now we are 20 & my husband will be 22 this November! πŸ™‚

I am not missing out on anything. He is my best friend in the entire world & I wouldn’t have it any other way. We pretty much grew up together, we do everything together!! I am the happiest ever now that we have our own place, are married & spending the rest of our lives together! We had full support when we got married by both of our families. No one once said we should wait. We got our own place about 9 months before getting married. Everyone knew we was engaged when we got our place & was very happy for us! I did however get a few strangers say something AFTER we got married. But I bursh it off because they do not know us. 

To the people that say you should live a while before getting married, ect. I am living right now & I am married! My husband doesn’t hold me back from anything he only supports me & encourages me to BE MY BEST at everything I do! We love doing new things, seeing new places, traveling, ect! The only thing that is different is I get to do it with my best friend who also happens to be my husband! πŸ™‚

 

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@pandaboo: I completely agree with you.  While I don’t think getting married young is for everyone, I also think we should all respect each other’s decisions.  DH and I have been together for 5 1/2 years.  We are now 22/23 and we got married in June (when we were 21/22).  Almost all of the negative comments we’ve gotten were from people who didn’t know us. Our friends and family were saying “It’s about time!” We were broken up for awhile in college and I dated other people.  We decided to get back together and eventually get married.  I do not understand the “missing out” statements.  I’m choosing to do those things with my husband and that is what’s right for us.

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@Annabelle86: “Our lives didnt end the day we got married, they started.” Love this!

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hey there OP!

I just wanted to let you know that I don’t think your post came off as mean/judgemental at all!

I’m not getting married at too young of an age (I will be 26, Fiance will be 30)… But we met when I was 19 so I do understand. Even though we decided to wait to get married I still got a lot of “ohhh but you’re missing out on life” comments because I stayed with my Fiance.

Errrr noooo I didn’t! I just got to experience it all with someone I love! Yes, I grew as an individual… But I also got to grow with him, which made it even more special for me. And no, my life didn’t end just because I committed myself to my Fiance at a young age. We traveled together, we traveled apart. We lived together, we lived apart (hell we even lived in an LDR for a while!). Oh and I’m pretty sure I even went through a “drunk whore” stage in college, except I was only whoring myself out to one dude. Heh.

Anyways, I totally understand where you’re coming and I’m so happy that you found the man of your dreams at the right time for YOU!

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: We seem to be on a lot of the same threads (young, married, and pre-TTC).  So glad to see there’s others on the same “track” as I, esp. since IRL most of my close friends are not quite there yet πŸ™‚

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@MrsStrawberry24:  I agree! I think OP has a good message, and did not sound judg-y or anything, and I am not sure why people are making over-sensitive comments?

 

OP- I agree with you. FH and I met at age 17, and will be getting married when we are 21. It is so nice to have someone who is there for me instead of trying to navigate through a sea of jerks. I as just lucky to have found The One as young as I did I guess.

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@pandaboo: 26 is still very young? Aww, you’re a sweetie! πŸ™‚ Hehe. I guess when I get out of bed in the morning and I hear my hips and back pop as I slowly shuffle to the Keurig for coffee fuel, I don’t feel as youthful as I once did! You just made my day! πŸ™‚

And you are most welcome. Forget any other negative bees’ comments as other pp’s have already suggested. There are plenty of supportive bees in this hive! There’s no right age for marriage.

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