(Closed) Happy Torture??

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Enjoy the fact you all get to be in the same place at the same time. I would focus on that the most because I imagine those opportunities are few and far between. Yes I would also be happy for them, but to tell you the truth, you’ll probably get “so when are you guys getting engaged” – be prepared with a comment that is a gentle loving nudge, not a “ugh I’m just waiting on him”. Then on the trip home, use that as a jumping off point. “You know, it makes me uncomfortable when people ask that, because while I think we’re on the same page, you and I never really have a solid unified answer, and it would make me feel better if we could sort that out”…

Maybe this won’t work for you, but it’s at least something to think about!

Post # 5
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think @PopRox: has good ideas. Also, this might be an opportunity to get even more wedding ideas. You can help your Future SIL plan and also be taking notes of your own. I think weddings are so happy and fun, so just focus on that aspect instead of “I want to be doing this, too!” At least during the weekend you’ll be so busy you won’t have time to think about it. Then like Poprox said, you can corner your guy on the car ride home. 

Post # 6
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

At leats it’s your SO’s future SIL and not your sister. I see it, when siblings or best friends get engaged around the same time there is a competition and its usually with the females. I hope you won’t feel like you have to compete with her and can just enjoy your engagement time when it does it happen for you.

Post # 8
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@Wonderwoman217: You’re doing the right thing by venting here and getting it all worked out in your head, so when/if it comes up you can keep it light and not EXPLODE! I think packing a few books is totally a great idea. I journal compulsively, you can get a journal and each morning write down all the “waiting uglies”, the thoughts that are floating around your head. Get them out of your head and on paper and maybe it will help you face the day.

You can always just say “I don’t know”. I think it’s not what you say but how you say it: i.e. keep your composure, keep your answer short and simple, and then change the subject. I’m sure she’ll be happy to go back to gabbing about her wedding plans 🙂

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