- 6 years ago
So in my last post, I discussed with my SO how I wanted a moissanite because I couldn’t stomach the thought of him spending that amount of money on a diamond when we’re saving for a house. He wasn’t very receptive to it, but it did open up the whole wedding / engagement conversations again (not in a bad way!)
Basically, I left a pic of the moissanite I want up on our computer. As soon as he saw it he askd me to come into our office, and he asked me point-blank “Do you really want this ‘Massinite’ thing?” I explained to him that I know saving for a house is his priority right now, but that having a commitment before actually purchasing one is my priority. I told him that we don’t have to get married right away, I would be fine with getting engaged, buying the house, and then getting married the year after; but that I couldn’t buy a house with a sound mind, knowing that there was no actual commitment from him. Here’s the kicker, I then said (and I can’t believe I said this), “I cook you dinner every night, I wash your clothes, maintain this house, and love you unconditionally. We share finances, a dog, and are basically married already. What will change if we actually make it official?”
Well, he had nothing to say but “you’re right”. He then asked what I really wanted, moissanite or diamond, and I admitted that I’d prefer a diamond, but if it meant I got to marry him sooner I’d be thrilled with a moissanite. He immediately said “that’s it – you’re getting a diamond. No ifs, ands, or buts. I can finance a diamond too, you know.” And we left it at that.
Fast forward two days – he says out of NOWHERE: “I think we should get married right away. I don’t want to wait years for us to get married”. HOLD THE PHONE! I think I actually got through to him! This is so different from the “soon” response I’ve been getting for the past year. Granted, his version of “right away” is probably different from mine – but at least I know he’s taking action – finally!