(Closed) Hard Day

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5959 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Whenever I feel overwhelmed and like I’m drowning in my own life, I ask myself, “How do you eat an elephant Nona?  One bite at a time.”

And when I’m flustered, angry, frustrated and feeling generally misunderstood and unappreciated in this world, I retreat to the one place on this Earth where I am queen of all I see…my bathtub…it’s a known fact that no bad vibes can penetrate tile and the sound of running water is a stress reliever…go in there and shut the door on wedding and time and pharamaceuticals…you must be really smart by the way…and have a good soak!  Read a trashy romance novel that is nothing but bilge and words like “throbbing” and “ache”…put on some lovely jammies and snuggle into bed, eat cookies in there, no one is watching and take a break…you’ll feel all better tomorrow and then you can start eating that white wedding elephant, one bite at a time!

Post # 4
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry for everything you are going through. It all sounds like a lot to handle. Can you just take a mini break from it for the evening.

I used to have what I called “quilt nights”. My grandmother made a beautiful quilt for each of her granddaughters. On bad days, I would have a quilt night. I would come home, get into my pajamas, pour a glass of diet Pepsi, lay down on the sofa and pull the quilt up over my head. It was like a cocoon of calm.

It will be OK. Hugs.

Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012



Awww hugs….I’m so sorry your dad is ill. Try to stay strong…you can do it!

Post # 7
39 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Other than your dad being ill, I’m in exactly the same boat. Fiance is 110 miles away until just before the wedding. I’m just starting grad school this semester. Working two jobs, getting married in 2 weeks, Fiance working one job, going to be starting a second. Been planning the wedding for 2 years too – your paragraph about wedding planning for 2 years could have come straight from my head. 

I don’t really have much advice for you, which I know isn’t that helpful. But just know that you’re not in it alone, and when you’re stressing about your calendar or planning checklist, or anything busy-ness related…. just remember to focus on why you’re doing this in the first place. Why you’re going to pharmaceutical school. Focus on the fact that you’re there at all (your program knows you can do it, otherwise you wouldn’t be there!). And why you’re planning and stressing… getting married to the love of your life. 

I know how I’m feeling right now (which is pretty awful), so I can’t imagine the pain and stress of also watching a parent go through that. All I can say is that try not to let yourself get so wrapped up in your details of life that you miss out on spending time with him or appreciating that time. I wish you the best of luck and love. 



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