(Closed) Hard Day

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh, honey, I’m sorry you’re having such a rough day.  πŸ™  I know you’re stressed and upset and being so physically uncomfortable isn’t making it any better.  It’s ok to vent on here when these days crop up; we’ve all had them before.

Is there anything you can do this weekend to help relieve some of the stress/make you feel better physically?  Specifically, I’m thinking that a prenatal massage might help relieve some of those aches and pains and help relax you a little.  Maybe a nice hot bubble bath (and a glass of wine if you’re ok with that)?  Can you call your mom and cry on her shoulder?  My mom always made me feel bettwer when I was having one of those tough pregnancy days.  Can you take off a few hours from work to rest up a bit?  Sometimes a nap can help more than almost anything else.

Just try to take care of you right now.  It’s ok to be upset and cry if you need to; being pregnant on top of all your other worries is tough.  Hugs.

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Nothing but *hugs* we all have these types of days and sometimes longer that.  You should go to a breast feeding support group πŸ™‚ Tons of mommy’s and a big support system. Plus they are usually free and offered at most hospitals.  You’ll be able to meet women who are at the end of their pregnancy like yourself as well as having infants at different stages.  They will understand exactly what you’re going through.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Aww… hugs! Maybe plan something fun for yourself that’s out of the house when your husband is gone. That way you’re not sitting around in a mess alone. Get a pedicure and some good food. Rent a movie that you wouldn’t watch with your husband.

I always take the opportunity to catch up on horrible TV and painting my nails when my husband is gone.

Post # 6
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ll be 32 weeks tomorrow and I’m right behind you on these feelings. The other night I had an irrational freak out that someone was going to steal my baby because so many people keep referring to her as their baby or our baby (mine and theirs). I’ve also freaked out because the cat won’t cuddle with me (I don’t even like her so this is definitely strange behavior for me) and because my husband wouldn’t give me a bite of his cheese. I’ve also been so overwhelmed about how much needs to be done in our house before the baby comes. My Mother-In-Law talked us into letting her paint the baby’s room next weekend so everything that was already arranged and perfect has to come out and I’ll have to fix it again. I also have to make room in the already too small kitchen for things like bottles etc, and room in the linen closet for baby blankets, towels, etc. I’m also working full time and just feel overwhelmed between work, getting the house together, being exhausted etc. I think its totally normal and wish I had more advice to you. The only thing I’ve figured out that is somewhat helping is coming up with two or three small things a day that either I or Darling Husband can take care of that way I feel atleast a little in control and a little bit accomplished. Today’s tasks were cleaning out the fridge, clearing off the guest room couch, and finishing dishes. Not necessarily anything baby related but it helps to feel like atleast something got done. Just try to take it day by day- or even hour by hour- and just stay as calm as you can. Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

YES, I’m totally with you on this. I had a talk with Darling Husband last night about how I think I have prenatal depression, probably mainly because I’ve felt so awful (I’m still nauseous all the time and throwing up a few times a week, and not sleeping more than 2-3 hours at a time). I told him I need a few days where I am not responsible for anything besides sleeping and going to work- i.e. he is in charge of the dog, of housecleaning, of feeding himself and feeding me, running any errands (even if they’re mine), etc. in order for me to recharge even a little and regain some semblance of functionality.

I’ve found that I can’t really manage on my own during first or third trimester, so if Darling Husband ever has to be gone, I get my mom or my sister to come babysit me- not sure if that’s an option for you, but if so I recommend it! I also like some of the recommendations of some of the previous posters- I know they’re expensive, but if you can take some time out for a spa day this weekend, I’ve had friends say that really helped a lot during late pregnancy. I might even ask Darling Husband to arrange something like that for me, since sometimes I feel too overhwhelmed and exhausted to think or plan for myself. Does your husband know how rough things are on you right now? I think it’s hard for the guys to fathom how awful pregnancy can be in many ways, but maybe if he has a better idea of what you’re going through he can help come up with ways to help you get through?

Post # 10
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have had more days like this than good days lately!  I’m only 16 weeks so I haven’t begun worrying about the labor issues.  But my whole life is kinda in a transitional period and combining that with the hormones makes me so sad.  We have no house, we’re still looking for a place, in a new town where I only know a couple women.  My family-in-law lives here but they’re going through so much that the environment is toxic.  Ugh, I never thought things would be like this!  I’d feel a bit better if my plight made you feel better πŸ™‚

I should come to weddingbee more often because this is a great place for free therapy! 

It’s so cliche to say, and hard to convince yourself sometimes.. but everything will work out πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ours is a long, complicated story too.  Or maybe not, but it’s just so taxing I almost don’t even want to type it.  But anyway, I’ve had the same realization.  That my in-laws won’t be the support we’ll inevitably need.  I guess I should of seen it coming but you don’t realize things until reality sets in sometimes.  They won’t be a support at all.  They’ll never be able to just babysit if we want to go get dinner, etc.  They can barely function on their own, not even kidding.  And they’re the only ones here.  Ugh.  Sorry, don’t mean to vent on your post.  But definitely feel free to vent away, everyone should be entitled to a bad day. 

Post # 13
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think we just might be pregnancy twins lol. I have to keep the door shut on the baby’s room 90% of the time because it gives me anxiety to know there’s literally nothing I can do about it until it gets painted next weekend, which by the way I never wanted done… I’m also having in-law issues and my own parents aren’t as around as I expected them to be for this either. Most of my friends live elsewhere or are in different stages of life so loneliness is definitely a normal occurance. Let me know if you ever want someone to talk to- it is nice to know that someone else goes through these things too.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m a new mom in Chicago too, and I met a lot of other new moms through Bump Club Chicago. It’s a club where they host events for pregnant and new moms. The events are great and the people I met were all really nice. Just thought you might like it if you’re feeling alone πŸ™‚

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