(Closed) Hard feelings with MOH

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh that is crappy. It sounds to me like she really didn’t want to be a part of the weekend and nothing would make her happy. Perhaps jealousy really is at play here. Is she in a good relationship? Is she upset you’re getting married before her or something? Is it possible she’s had a recent financial hardship?

I think you should probably talk to her directly. I mean this is your best friend right? Tell her that you don’t want your wedding to be a hardship on her and ask if she’s feeling overly pressured to spend too much or something? I dunno. Sucky situation though!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can relate because I too had one bridesmaid who was sullen and cranky during pre-wedding events. It really bothered me, to the point where I had to stop speaking to her for a while so as not to say anything terrible to her. But time heals all wounds and a year later I am able to be friends with her again. Some people don’t handle group events well. Maybe she felt powerless to make her needs known in a group of relative strangers. No excuse for how she acted but I there’s really not much you can do, other than give yourself some time and space to cool off. I’m sorry she cast a damper on your special events.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t really have any advice but I hope it helped you to be able to vent! 

One of my BMs (my cousin) did a lot of complaining.  For example, she complained about the price of her dress to my aunt.  I asked all my BMs to choose any Alfred Angelo dress in a certain color.  This Bridesmaid or Best Man lives in Europe and so the Alfred Angelo Dresses are more expensive there.  I advised her to go to a store there that sells the dresses, try some one, choose one and tell me her size.  I was planning on ordering it here for her (literally less than half the price) then either finding a seamstress who could do the alterations in the 2 weeks before the wedding that she would be here, or ship the dress to her for her to get alterations.  When she went to the store, they talked her into ordering the dress that day, NOT my fault! 

She also complained about a lot of stuff when she got here before the wedding.  I’ve decided that she’s just a complainer and there is nothing I can do to make her happy.

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