- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So, Darling Husband and I live pretty close to Disneyland, and it seriously makes me want to move elsewhere because everyone wants to crash at our place for their Disneyland plans!! I seriously feel like I have to have a calendar marking off all of the weekends that have been requested. The kicker is that we live in a one bedroom apartment, and we have to put guests in the living room. So far, the people who have asked are:
1. my half sister and her “friend”
2. my half brother and his girlfriend
3. both of my sisters-in-law
4. and most recently my stepmom and half brother
I have no problem offering up my couch for a friend who comes out and drinks too much, or one of my sisters. And actually, I am close to my half brother and his girlfriend, so I don’t really have a problem with them coming to visit either. Oh…and I also don’t have a problem with my two SILs coming because they are trying to plan it way in advance. The main problems that I have are:
1. my half sister and “friend” (she’s my half sister on my dad’s side): Last time she came out, I felt like I had to spend a bunch of money, and she basically mowed on all of my groceries for the week…just ate them without even asking. I’m not rich by any means!
2. my stepmom and half brother: They just called me yesterday asking to sleep over for a few nights during the week next week. I would not have a problem with this if I had a spare room. Also, I work during the week at a high stress job, and I need my down time to survive. I’m not super close to my stepmom either (we’ve have some issues in the past, and most recently, she instructed my two half sisters, who were not bridesmaids at my wedding, to wear dresses very similar to the bridesmaids…my family pictures looked awkward….blah blah blah.)
Anyway…I need some advice on how to say “no” and set some boundaries. For the most part, I’m ok with people staying over. I just need some advance notice (so I can make sure I don’t have back to back to back weeks of running myself ragged), and during the week is no good (because I have work, and Darling Husband is a full time student in Computer Science and has a ton of homework.) Bees: how do I say “no”? It’s so hard with family.