(Closed) HARD SITUATION:( Need Advice !!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have you tried talking to her? Sometimes the most simple solution is to get those feeling out in the air! If you take the time to express to her that you want to rid your relationship of this tension than maybe she will see you are being genuine and will try harder to be more pleasant and not so rude. Girls trips to the mall or to get nails done can also help to ease into this conversation 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Next time she is rude to you in person, just respond with a witty remark… like …. “wow…. that sounded pretty rude.” And add a strange expression on your face.  (But don’t get down and dirty of course!) People around you will respect you for it too. They won’t see you as a pushover. And they might stand up for you as well and add their 2 cents. It takes one person to stand up first. And that one person should always be you first, standing up for you!

You can try talking to her but it’s hard to start this type of conversation when the situations do not call for it. I.e. going out for coffee, movies, etc. Especially when you don’t know how she will react to it. These conversations are better done in private.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The situation is weird bc she is nice to you when its just one-on-one.

I had a guy friend like this too and behind my back he told his gf at the time that he had had feelings for me…so guess what…she was mean to me!!! That would be my only guess as to why she is cruel to you…but it really confuses me that she is nice to you behind peoples back….

sorry i cant be of much help!

Post # 7
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1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would def try to talk with her. Let her know how you feel. Especially if one on one everything is ok. Maybe she is trying to let people know that you dont bother her but really it bothers her that you and her husband are friends. I think she is insercure that is why she puts you down in public. Maybe if you ladies talked about it she would know that she has nothing to worry about you and her husband are just friends. I hope everything goes well and I wish you best of luck!

Post # 9
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1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well first off I think it’s good you didn’t fire back. Ultimately I think that would cause even more problems in this situation. The biggest thing I’ve learned about girls like this (and trust me there are lots!) is that if you can get the courage to actually address the issue as early on as you can that you are saving yourself a whole lot of grief. It’s like the snowball effect and no one wants a tiny problem to roll down the hill and become a giant one! Just be open with her and tell her that you feel a little tension and you’re not sure what the cause is. Maybe she feels the same way and that’s why she’s taking this snarky defense. I always say honestly is the best policy so if you want to be friends with her than you need to cut this tension ASAP!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The only power she has over you is what you’re giving her. You may be scared, but defeating that fear could help make your life so much better! 

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