(Closed) Hard time finding a church… HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@tigergrrl2008:  I’m wondering who must have answered the phone!  I’d talk to the priest.  I’ve always had better luck with a priest than the people in the office.  Explain to him that you have been attending for four years (hopefully, unless it is a huge church, he will recognize you) and consider this to be your home church.  My guess is that he will probably work with you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@tigergrrl2008:  You could possibly look for a parish near a university, those parishes tend to be a little more open-minded and “liberal” so to speak. My Fiance and I were having the same issues when we were trying to find a catholic church to marry in. They wanted us to be members and had to be members for at least a year or two. The university parishes are usually more open to allowing people to marry at their church, they usually have a member fee and non-member fee to marry in the church. Either that or you could look at episcopal churches, some of them will allow you to marry in their church but at a higher fee than if you were a member! Just a few suggestions…I would also agree with the PP that you could talk to the priest rather than the office, I also think it depends on the parish and archdiocse.

Post # 5
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1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@tigergrrl2008:  Agreed, talk to the priest.  I’ve found that often people who work in the offices aren’t always the nicest people.  Don’t give up and don’t let it get you down!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

To put it bluntly the people in the parish office were being arseholes. Go ahead and register at the parish and start using donation envelopes. It doesn’t matter how much you put in, the envelope just proves you were there at Sunday Mass. They will keep a record of your contributions (for tax purposes) and you get to wave it in their face if the office ladies get bitchy about whether you participate in parish life.

There’s no rule that you can’t join a parish “just because you got engaged.” Getting engaged is a GREAT reason to officially join a parish.

Keep your head held high – you have a right to access the sacraments! These office ladies are just schmucks. I wish I lived in your area so I could go down there and have a word with them myself… these people are a disgrace to our religion.

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