(Closed) Hard to advise a total stranger…

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
4712 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree.  I try my hardest to see the situation from multiple perspectives.  What if this is the situation?  What if it’s not?  We can just do our best to help!  People post their problems for a reason… they just need some outside insight.  No one can tell 100% what another person’s relationship is like, even if we’ve known the person for years.

Post # 3
2092 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel like though, especially since a lot of bees are rather young, sometimes they don’t know or see that something is wrong until someone else points it out.

I have a friend who has a pretty awful boyfriend who she has dated since high school. She randomly would tell me these awful things he was doing like it was no big deal, all guys were like this. Then when I say “That’s not ok” she used to get upset because “I didn’t know him”

I feel like there are certain actions or behaviors that no matter your level of knowing someone, they aren’t ok and there isn’t a side of the story that would make it ok.

Post # 4
857 posts
Busy bee

I agree with you ladies.

I know being one of these bee’s that has posted about issues, it is honesty so relieving to know you arent the only one. And is so indearing and appreciative getting any sort of post whether its what you want to hear or not. I am thankful for these boards, cause sometimes its hard to talk to the closest people to you. Dont wnt them to form an opinion or judge out of love.

RedHeadKel:  I know you recently commented on one of my posts and I thank you for your honesty. Specially not knowing all sides of the stories. Always takes two to tango and hard to form a full opinion when you only know one side but everything is appreciated.<br /><br />

The man you married, did you guys work through these issues or are you no longer with him?


Post # 5
5171 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

RedHeadKel:  I think for anyone that has been burned in a relationship, we tend to see those red flags more quickly in other people’s stories. This happens with me when I read “waiting bees” posts, as someone who waited for a very long time for a guy that just didn’t want to marry me. I just want to say “STOP WASTING YOUR TIME ON HIM!” But I also know that no two relationships are the same and not all of them end up like my past experiences. Also, I feel like a lot of people come on here just wanting validation that they are doing the right thing and sometimes hear what they don’t want to hear. It is hard to tell someone who is in love that they should leave, they have to come to that conclusion on their own.

Post # 7
857 posts
Busy bee

RedHeadKel:  I know it wasn’t aimed at me 🙂 and I totally get what your saying! But your post is very true. Happy to hear you are a bee that truly listens to your heart and did what you had to for your happiness! Takes a lot of power to do it!!

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