(Closed) Hard to find couple friends

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My Fiance and I have a similar issue.  We are the first of our friends to get married (in 2 months).  Two of our friends are dating and the other 6 of them are single. 

Our single friends complain when we don’t go out with them a lot anymore.  In the early stages of our relationship we would frequent restaurants, bars and movies with everyone.  Now we don’t do it so often and we definitely hear complaints. 

On the other hand, we’d love to find more couples to hang out with but it’s really hard. One friend was dating someone and girlfriend and I became really close.  When they broke up I still hung out with her sporadically and he resented me for that.  So now, when someone has a girlfriend (all of our friends are guys), it’s hard for me because I feel like I can’t really be friends with them.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I never realized how difficult it was to find good "couple friends"! My parents always had a close group of friends and I grew up thinking that was normal. Now that I’m engaged and we’re trying to find friends- I realize how rare good "couple friends" really are!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s funny.. I was always the odd single girl with all couple friends so now I finally fit in.. haha.  I never really thought about it the other way around. It seems that I have been taking all of my couple friends for granted!

Post # 7
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Newbee

I feel the same way! We finally met some people at the dog park of all places! I don’t work with anyone my age, so it has definitely been hard to find people our age with common interests!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance and I recently moved to a new town so he could attend law school. I am working at a new job where everyone is a lot older so it has been really hard for me to meet people here! Everyone is at least 10 years older… All of the people we hang out with are his single law school friends so we definitely have no couple-y friends right now.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

Luckily for us, most of our friends are married or seriously dating someone. So we have lots of couple friends to choose from!

I think it definitely is harder to make friends once you graduate from college. You don’t have a steady stream of new people entering your life!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

For some reason, we have the opposite problem.  We have only couple friends and very few single friends!  Because there are so many couples, single friends are often intimidated to join our group outings.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why does it matter? I’m not being smart i dont understand why you feel you need couple friends? We have friends, singles, couples, serial daters..sometimes he goes out with his friends alone(single and married or they mix it up) sometimes I go out with mine9the same), sometimes we double date, sometimes we go out and a single friend will tag along, sometimes we tag along with our single friends…what am I missing? As we have gotten older it is easier to meet people who are "couples" but the thought of categorizing my friends like that has never crossed my mind.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maybe you just need friends that you have more in common with-they don’t necessarily need to be a "couple"? or is it that you want friends to double date with or to talk married life with? I’m having a hard time getting it, but I’m interested because it sounds like a few people are in this boat. We have always had friends that have had SO’s so maybe that’s why i never thought about it or missed it.

OR do you mean you want friends that are not "attached" to you or him-like we go out with this one couple a lot, but the guy is a good friend of my FI’s from college -they are my friends by default but mostly he makes the plans with them. Does that make sense?

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I too am mourning the loss/move of one of our "couple friends" who moved across the country. 

It is difficult.  We’re joining a new church and we’ve accumulated a few new couple friends through business contacts though.  But not like our oldie but goodie trusted buds we miss!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh how I wish we had more couple friends.  We are a fairly young couple, and we don’t have many friends who are either married or in serious relationships.  We do have a lot of mutual friends, but we feel guilty of the possibility that they might feel like the third wheel with us.

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