(Closed) hard to get started

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Make 3 appointments all for 1 day to see venues you like and talk to them as if you are serious about your date and bring mom along. It will hopefully hit her that this is really happening during that day.

Post # 4
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First, don’t go in expecting them to give you money unless they’ve said before that they will take care of it. Second, the next time you go and talk to her, have ideas, as in show her pictures, venues, etc. Start talking colors, dresses, and all things wedding related, how big/how small, and then go into the money talk. If they aren’t going to help and you and FH need to come up with the money then mention that you’ll probably go with a JOP service or something much more affordable. Put everything in real terms with examples, start throwing out specific dates so its no longer an idea but an actual event.

Post # 5
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would tell her that you set a date for xx/xx/xxxx.


If it is in Sep 2012 you do have a while. I would just write a list of what you will be needing. I never did discuss a budget with my parents. I just ask first and tell my mom the price of things.

I would start researching venues and dresses and talk about the price with her. That is the only talk of budget I have ever had, my mom would always say, ‘that is not too bad’ or ‘that is a lot’

I would also concentrate on school and do planing on breaks. So start your planning during the summer.

Post # 6
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can we switch Moms? Mine is riding my ass daily asking if I made any decisions! lol! The easiest way to be taken seriously is to do something serious about it IMO. If you aren’t ready to make decisions on venues, place, caterers etc yet since its so far away how about going for an engagement shoot around your school or somewhere meaningful? Even better send out a wedding announcement – something printed and tangible for her to see.


I can’t offer any advice about budget… it was clear from the start we were on our own and when my Mom did worriedly put in a ‘we’ll help somehow…’ I shot her down and said not to worry about it.

Post # 7
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If I were in your position I would probably just start talking money. Money tends to make people take things seriously and listen up!

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