We have twins, so a whole different ball game than a singleton. The hardest parts is being more irritable and frustrated because of less sleep and exhaustion. Also, the constant guilty feelings, – is one getting more attention, why do I have more patience towards one vs. the other (they do change, so it is not the same one…ha), will they grow up lacking one on one bonding time, etc. But moms have guilty feelings with 1 just as much. That part is very hard.
Also, the girls are in the age now (5 months) where they are not mobile yet, and can’t play by themselves much and need to be constantly entertained. But with 2, that is hard – always a juggling act of “hold 1 baby, put her down, hold the other, the one who got put down is now screaming”, and back and forth all the time. Me and husband get more irritated with one another, have less time together, and it is all about the babies now. But again, with 2, we need both of us helping out (we both work, so evenings and weekends, but I feel like working full time at an office job is much easier than being home by myself with 2), so we can’t give one another much breaks, as it is hard to handle 2 by yourself for long, so we are stuck being home together, and all day revolves around making babies happy ( I am hoping as they get mobile it gets better, as now they literally need to either be carried all the time or entertained by making faces at them, singing, etc, and can’t be left in a swing, bouncer, mat, etc for long by themselves at all).
The best part is when they smile at you, the warm and fuzzy feeling you get when one is crying and you are able to soothe her, holding them and showing them little things that they get so excited and curious about, being able to cuddle with them separately when sister naps, looking through pictures of them on the phone when at work, and feeling awwww they are my babies. The best part so far was smiling milestone….when baby started smiling it was the best thing so far. When they were newborn, baby falling asleep on my chest was also amazing (don’t do that anymore)
But I think with 1 baby, you have nothing to worry about….we joke that with 1, it would almost feel like not having a baby at all, one person can easily handle it by themselves, can just carry baby around all day, hold them, cuddle them (if that is what makes them happy), it is sooo much easier logistically to get out of the house, etc. If we ever have a third and a singleton, it would be a piece of cake. Some weekends we “split” the babies – I am spending time with one (take her grocery shopping, visit a friend, bond at home, etc) and my husband is spending time with her sister (we switch, so get equal one on one bonding time), and it feels like a relaxing vacation to have only 1 baby to take care of. Ha. It is super easy with 1.