Post # 1
Has anyone else had issues with choosing bridesmaid dresses? I don’t want to tell my bridesmaids “YOU HAVE TO WEAR THIS DRESS!!”, however, I would like the three of them to all wear the same color/fabric/silohuette. This is seriously stressing me out! All three of my maids have different body shapes and totally different tastes in dresses. My Maid/Matron of Honor is super thin and is straight through the waist and hips. She prefers something form-fitting, but my other two mades are more shapely and I know they wouldn’t feel comfortable in something like that. I want all of them to be happy and comfortable, but I also really want the three of them to mix well. Maid/Matron of Honor tried on a dress that she loved. It looked great on her, but when paired with a dress in the same color/fabric on my other bridesmaid, I just didn’t like how they looked together… but they both loved the dresses! I can’t bring myself to say “Too bad, I don’t like it, you’re not getting it”. I don’t want to be a bridezilla, but I at least want whatever the three ladies pick to be aesthetically pleasing.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Coastal Maine inn
thekimmer86: I agree that this is super difficult! I just chose the dresses, and rather than take everyone with me to try things on together, I went with only my Maid/Matron of Honor. She tried on a bunch of different styles, and I picked 5 that I liked that all come in the fabric and color I picked. That made it a LOT easier to go to my bridesmaids and say “all I did was pick a color and fabric – here are five styles you can choose from!” That way they still feel like they have a say in what they’re wearing, and people with different body types don’t have to wear the same style.
Post # 3
thekimmer86: can you afford to buy the dresses? That might save you the headache then you can choose and just be done with it
Post # 4
Decide the color you want, pick a number of styles you like, and let the bridesmaids pick out of the dresses you already approved.
You’re not being a bridezilla for having an opinion about what your bridesmaids wear, you’re doing what brides who have bridesmaids have to do to some degree or another. It’s simply a part of the wedding planning process.
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor wore a different dress by the same designer in the same color/fabric and it looked fine. All the other girls liked the dress they wore, but it was universally flattering. Ill attach a pic so you can see 🙂
Post # 6
I didn’t want to worry about it so I just told my girls “yellow, knee-length dress in a non-shiny fabric” and it worked out great. They found their own dresses and I though they looked great! And, best of all, it was easy!
Post # 7
I had the same issues, so I just picked out fabric swatches in a spceific color and material, gave one to each of my BMs and my Maid/Matron of Honor to take with them when they went dress shopping or if they saw any dresses they liked. I also asked them to make sure the dresses were strapless/sleeveless or one shoulder and cocktail-length. We ended up with 5 different dresses on 5 very different body types and it looks very coordinated because even though the styles were different, each girl loved her dress and all 5 complemented one another.
Post # 8
go to alfred angelo. that was recommended to me for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.
you pick the color you want. every dress comes in every color. then select a few styles you wants your BMs to choose from. then let them pick.
i took my girls, told them any dress they wanted. they all picked the same dress.
Post # 9
BowTiedKangaroo: I like the idea of choosing x-number of “pre-approved” dresses. That’s a great approach! I do already have a color picked out and I know I want floor length gowns. Thank you so much for suggesting this!
Boxerlover24: Unfortunately it’s not in the budget to be able to purchase my ladies’ dresses, which is really why I want them to be able to choose their dress.
angelicd77: Those dresses look great! That color is beautiful. I would be ok with my Maid/Matron of Honor being a little different, but I think my biggest problem was that the silohuettes just didn’t look right together. That might seem nitpicky, but that’s just me.
I found the photo I took of the two dresses. I think what I don’t like is how the dress on the left is draped across the front (the flower is in a weird spot, too but that would be removed), but the one on the right falls straight down.
I will say, I do like both of these dresses and would be fine with either one if I felt they looked ok togeter.
Post # 10
ajillity81: Yes, I’ve become very familiar with the Alfred Angelo site :). We have an appointment on 11/8 to try some more dresses on and I’ve got a few picked out.
Post # 11
ajillity81: My dresses were Alfred Angelo! They were awesome and so many places carry them!
thekimmer86: Thanks! The girls loved them. And the BMs all had pockets!!!! lol Maybe try the Alfred Angelo approach. That way you can have an unlimited amount of dresses to choose from and then give them the limited list. That might work out best for you.
Post # 12
angelicd77: One of those dresses is different?? I can’t tell!
Post # 13
BurlapnLace: the girl to the left of me is my little sister. Her dress was more of a fit and flare instead of the full a-line that the others were. She also had a custom ivory belt made and sewn onto the dress right under the bustline. It looked FAB!
Post # 14
thekimmer86: well one of my bridesmaids absolutely hates the color of the dress but that’s non negotiable. I basically sent them to the bill levkoff site told them to pick long dresses in chiffon. Then we are ordering from chichistyles.com bc they are SO much cheaper than a salon!