Post # 17
@shady_lane: I really think that your thoughts on people bringing cash is wrong. If they didn’t care they wouldn’t be coming to your wedding at all. I think your email to them made it sounds as though cash was easier so that is probably why they ate doing it. As someone with no experience traveling out of the country I never would have even thought about the conversion rates. I also think cash is fairly common now. I’m having a long distance wedding as well and have heard from others that many guests will prefer bringing cash as opposed to paying shipping costs.
I guess even if they did buy it and ship it to you, you would be “losing out” on money. If I had to pay to ship something I would probably count that towards the cost of the gift (and therefore spend a little less on the gift).
Post # 18
@shady_lane: Wow. I would never buy a present for someone having their wedding in a different country. When I go to a wedding in a different STATE from where the couple lives, I assume they want cash because how are they going to lug all that loot back? Will you lose more in the conversion than it would cost to transport all your stuff?
That said, I also very rarely buy wedding gifts more than a week ahead of time. At my sister’s baby shower the registry was almost full up until the morning of the party! And she got almost everything on it, so people were clearly stopping by the store on their way. Don’t stress about it too much.
Edit- Dang it.. I should read the whole thread before replying. You asked people to order online and sent it to your home. Ok… first: not everyone is comfortable shopping online. I know that’s ridiculous to most of us, but it’s true. Those people are going to give you cash. Second: I would be worried that it would be delievered to your home while you were out of country. Those people are either waiting or… they are giving you cash. Sorry love, I think lots of cash gifts are just par for the course when you get married in a different country.
Post # 20
I think you are reading way too much into the situation and are being a bit ungrateful. It’s not lazy to just give cash/check. Honestly, if I were a guest, that’s probably what I would do. I would figure that shipping would cost way too much and assume cash/check would be much easier for you. Sure you might lose some money from an exchange fee, but it would be pretty small. Plus, cash gifts are pretty common.
If I were to get you a gift though, I would probably not purchase it until last minute or even wait until after the wedding so that it can be delivered after your Honeymoon.
Post # 21
@MeiFrancis: That would be awesome if the case. Maybe I’m being too pessimistic.
Post # 22
Also, it’s acceptable for guests to send gifts for up to a year after the wedding. Not saying that anyone’s actually waiting that long, but they may purchase a gift for you after the wedding, especially if they’re thinking you should be back home to receive it.
I think I’ll mostly receive cash just because that’s what my family does and is used to. It definitely wouldn’t imply they’re being lazy (buying a gift from a list online could also be seen as lazy!), it would just be because that’s what they do, and as a gift-receiver, I’ll just be thankful for anything I get!
Post # 23
OK this is very helpful. I would never bring cash to a wedding if the couple had a registry. But I think it’s probably more common than I expected from the answers here.
It will be very annoying to deal with cash and checks given the currency issue but I will not turn away any gift of course!
I just am freaking out that we won’t get many gifts, which means after the piles of money into the wedding more piles of money to furnish our house.