(Closed) harmless flirting…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you’re in a relationship, I would personally say no, there’s no such thing as harmless flirting.  But, that’s just me.  I go by the rule, if I wouldn’t do it in front of my Fiance, then it’s wrong and I shouldn’t be doing it.

However, if you AND your signif. other think it’s harmless, and you have an agreement on what is and isn’t acceptable, who’s to say it’s not ok?  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes, as long as both parties are aware and happy that it won’t progress any further – I’d define it as something I’d be happy to do in front of my fiance! I’m talking about a bit of banter with a barman or shopkeeper, not going out for a drink with a colleague and spending the whole time flicking your hair and touching your lips.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

To me harmless flirting always makes me think of the cheeky old men who come into my work – they don’t mean any harm, there is no intent or agenda – they just like being old flirts! Situations like that are pretty harmless to me!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope. If you are my Fiance and flirting with someone I would be upset with you, just as he would be upset with me if I was flirting.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my eyes no. You are getting a need met and your Fiance isn’t meeting it. You should be continuing to flirt with one another instead of other people. It opens the door for drama and discord in your relationship and you should be protecting that at all costs.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i would be upset if my husband flirted with other girls. even if the intention is not to go any further.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Nope. Not at all. Well, actually, the only thing I think is kind of funny and sweet is the goofy old people (I’m talking someone old enough to be your grandparent) and the “Oh sugar” kind of thing. Not like “I’m a hot 20 something in a mini skirt winking at your husband”.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I agree with PPs that there is harmless flirting, and it’s when there’s obviously no chance of anything happening. Grandparent types, a store assistant that you’ll never see again – the type of interactions that are quick and not ongoing in your life. It’s always nice to get an ego boost! There is a line, though. It has to be light and perky banter, not gross. Nothing that you wouldn’t want your Grandma to hear, ha!

My SO and I have a pretty easy rule of thumb in regards to cheating (and flirting by assocation). If you wouldn’t do it in front of your partner, then it’s not okay.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I would be furious if my significant other flirted with another woman in front of me. He’d feel the same.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

To me?  Absolutely not.  I wouldn’t dream of doing it, and I believe Darling Husband wouldn’t either.  I would be hurt.  To me, this opens the door to other inappropriate behavior, like developing an emotional attachment to the person you are flirting with.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nope, flirting with someone else is hurtful, even if it’s intended to be “harmless”

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

no.

When I was married to my ex-husband  I did feel the need to flirt.  Our relationship wasn’t right at all and looking back I see it contributed to the flirting.

 With Fiance I have no desire to flirt with anyone. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it depends on how you define “flirting”. Do I go around sitting on other’s guys laps and talking about how manly and strong they are? No. Do I immediately shut down mutual guy friends who say I look nice today and remind them I’m engaged? Also no.

In our relationship, we both go by the rule that anything we wouldn’t do with the other standing right there is over the line. We are both extroverted people with friends of both sexes, and this is what works for us. I think every relationship has to work out what they are comfortable with.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper

Personally, I don’t think so.

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