Post # 1
I have a stepdad who is alcoholic and he verbally sexually harassed me one night while my mom is still working. At first he asked me If i could make their bed because my mom remove all the sheets that morning. I did what he asked me to do. He came to the room and told me that he cant be alone with me in the bedroom and then he went out again. I thought he was just being weird. 2nd time he came to the room he was staring at me and said “let’s do sexy” and my heart beat so fast that time so I wasn’t saying anything to him and ignored what he says and then he went back to the living room. I make it faster fixing the bed and suddenly when I was done doing it he came in to the room again and turned off the lights. He said “lay down in bed and take off your clothes” so what I did I run towards the door but then he pushed me at the bed and he was holding my legs so that I couldn’t move and he was very close to me. He wasn’t able to make me laydown in bed when he push me because I was trying my best to get out. I shouted at him and said “what are you doing? Let me go!!” And I was being so loud that the renters in our basement might hear it. He let me go suddenly and he just shut the door.
After it happened the next day, I told my mom about what he did to me. She was so upset at first and they were fighting. My stepdad is trying to explain and he told my mom that it was a joke and that I’m just over reacting. My moms keeps telling at him. But after their fight, it’s like they act like nothing happened and that hurts me so much. My stepdad try’s apologizing to me and promise me that he would never drink. I didnt accept his apology. But my mom keeps saying that I’m rude because I dont talk to him anymore. My mother didnt even ask me what I feel. I always feel alone and I feel stupid telling my mom about it but didn’t even do anything about my stepdad.
It’s been 4 months now but I still have the fear everyday that something might happen. It’s just like the fear is always with me. My friends told me that I should’ve just told the police. But I couldn’t because my mom will get mad at me when I do that. What should I do??
Post # 2
darkworld : You need to go to the police and file a police report and also do everything in your power to remove yourself from the home. Go to a family members house, a friend’s house or a shelter. He WILL do it again.
I would also never talk to my mother again if I were you.
Post # 3
This wasn’t harrassment; it was attempted rape. How old are you? Can you go live with your father?Grandmother? Aunt? Best friend? He’s a drunk and an attempted rapist, and your mother has rug-swept your awful experience (good work on fighting him off, by the way). You’ve got to not live there any more. Get out and never speak to either of them. Good luck.
Post # 4
Do you have a counselor at school you could talk to about getting help?
Post # 5
Please go to the police and file a report TODAY! This was abuse, it could have been rape if you didn’t get out. You appear to be in Canada, there are many women shelters and different support systems that can help you. Please do it, for your safety, your mom’s and every other women who might get abused by him if nothing is done.
ETA: your mother is just as guilty ad him by the way, she is essentially protecting a criminal. Just call the police. Someone will take it from there.
Post # 6
This is horrible. Is there anyone else you can livw with? Grandparent, aunt, etc? Tell a close family member about this. It’s not safe at home with him there.
Post # 7
cassandra7 : I believe she is 17 or 18. She wrote a post one year ago about this same asshole and her mother.
Is there an adult around you can trust? If you are still in high school, speak with the counselors tomorrow first thing. They will help you and protect you. What this disgusting degenerate is doing is wrong. I wouldn’t trust him enough to be anywhere alone with him. Honey, please don’t spend another day in this situation. Get out now!
Post # 8
Could you go back and live with your grandmother again?
Post # 9
darkworld : Your step-dad tried to rape you and your Mum is blaming you for wanting to have nothing to do with him. Is there anywhere else you can stay?
Post # 10
This is not harassment, this is assault. Get out of there. Go to the police. Go to your school counselors or a teacher you trust. Stay with a grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, dad, anyone else. He will do it again.
This is incredibly horrifying.
Post # 11
He attempted to rape you!!! GET OUT. The next time he may do it. Please bee go to the police station. Don’t stay silent because your mom will get mad at you. Your mom is just as guilty for not protecting you. SHAME ON HER! You need to be protected from this predator. I am so sorry bee no one should have to go through this. I am sending you hugs.
Post # 13
You are right to be afraid of him. Your stepfather assaulted you and tried to rape you. Get out of that house. You got away from him last time, you may not be able to the next time he tries.
Tell the police, tell your school, tell your grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends. Your mother should be angry with him, not with you, stop worrying about her feelings about this and protect yourself. Hugs.
Post # 14
darkworld : how are you doing bee? I think a few of us are really worried about you. An update would be good if you could manage it. Hope you are safe.
Post # 14
Mrs_Beer : Hello! Thank you for the responds. I already told my grandmother about the situation before and she wants me to stay with her at the Philippines. My mom wont let me go back. My grandma told her that I should have lock on my bedroom and but until now they didnt put lock on my bedroom. My step dad keeps telling my mom that it was a joke and there’s nothing serious about it before and I think she believes what he said. As of now, I’m working to get out of this house but my mom was so mad when i told her and she think its because of my boyfriend (me and my boyfriend doesnt have a plan to live together as long as we’re not finish studying) and now I cant get out of the house because they grounded me. My stepdad even went to the place where my boyfriend usually is during lunch time and i think he is spying if we are together (I look at his text messages to my mom) i feel so controlled since the day that i met him. I’m afraid to report it to the police because my mom might get mad at me and never talk to me again. Its been 4 months now too. Does it still matter if i tell the police?
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Post # 15
darkworld : tell the police. It doesn’t matter if your mother gets angry. She is complicit in this. Can you just go stay with your grandmother without your Mum’s permission. Your step Dad has tried to rape you and no doubt will try again .