Post # 31
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
Every day you wait to tell someone- the more danger you are in. As soon as you tell someone, you should start to be protected by other adults. It’s definitely scary, but your only choice is to tell someone- immediately. This is a lot more serious than I think you realize.
Post # 32
Tell a school counsellor or teacher right away. They will be able to help you and other adults will be able to protect you.
If it is too hard to talk to someone at school, please contact Kids Help Phone ASAP. You can call, text, or live chat. You will be connected to a counsellor who can help you take the steps you need to stay safe.
Post # 33
Oh, Bee, honey. This must be so scary for you. I wish we could all be there to go with you to make the police report.
Is there a counselor at school you can talk to?
If you go to the police, they should know about resources available to you, like a place to stay. You totally have to get out of that house, sweetie.
And, I’m afraid that you do have to report your stepfather. What if he is doing the same things to other girls?
Your mother is terrible, Bee. Unfortunately, there are women so screwed up that they will choose an abuser over their own children. She’s had some brainwashing.
Reach out, honey. Report this awful creeper. Help keep him away from other girls.
You have done nothing wrong here, Bee. None of this is your fault.
Please keep posting and keep us updated.
Post # 34
darkworld : hello its me again giving an update. I talked to my counsellor on whats going on and they called the police for me. I talked to the police and im currently staying in my friends house. The police talked to my mom and she’s very angry with me for reporting it. She kept saying that i just wanted freedom thats why i reported the incident and that im just being a teenager. But she admitted to the police that she knows what happened.
I never wanted to leave my mom in my stepdad. I just said that i wanted to move out because i cant live in the same house with him anymore. I just kinda give up that my mom will realized how much it affect and hurt me. So i just decided to move out and ofcourse my mom wont let me. I never wanted to be alone just because i want freedom. I agreed with her before, just this month, that i will help her pay rent when we move out but it didn’t happen again and she decided to stay with his partner again. There’s lots of time that my mom would ask me to pack up my things cause we’re gonna move out but she always change her mind.
I feel like i make the situation bigger and everyone is angry with me. I dont know if i did the good thing. It feels like my own family hates me. My moms sister is also mad at me. And saying that im not thinking about my mom and all i think about is myself. Am i selfish for doing that?
Post # 35
Oh bee, sending you a huuuge hug! You did a very brave thing!!! I am so sorry your family is not supporting you, but you DID NOT make it into a bigger thing than it was, it was a very very serious thing. It is not your fault. What is happening now is also not your fault.
I know you feel sad and scared to leace your mom with him but unfortunately YOU CANNOT save her even though I know you want to. You did the right thing.
You have a wonderful future ahead of you – finish your education, see your counselor to help you deal with this, and know that you did an extremely brave thing to save yourself from a monster! So proud of you bee!!!!
Post # 36
darkworld : None of this is your fault. You did the right thing! It is unfortunate that your mom and your aunt could not put your best interest first. Your mom was not protecting you. It was her choice to stay with your abuser. You did the right thing. I am sorry for the pain you are experiencing. Things will get better. Do not give up on yourself.
Post # 37
darkworld : honey, you are NOT selfish, you are PROTECTING yourself from an unsafe and abusive situation. You did the RIGHT THING. I’m so sorry that your mother is protecting him – this is fairly common in abusive households. You’re not alone, and many young women have gone through this too. The first and only thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. Do not go back to that house, no matter what your mom says. She might make you feel guilty for leaving, but you will be in danger there.
Now that you’ve done the right thing by reporting it and leaving the house, please find some support and resources to help you find a place to stay and figure out what to do next. Speak to your counselor or call a local women’s shelter to help you figure out your next step. You have your whole life ahead of you.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. YOU’RE GOING TO BE OK. STAY STRONG. YOU ARE BRAVE AND WE SUPPORT YOU! <3 If you need to talk, feel free to DM me.
Post # 38
darkworld : You 100% did the right thing. You told the truth and anyone who’s mad about that is only concerned with their own position and not thinking about you in the least. Nobody was protecting you from an awul and potentially dangerous situation so you took a positive step yourself. I think that was incredibly brave and you shouldn’t waste another second doubting yourself or even considering feeling like it was selfish.
Hang in there. You’re on the right path!
Post # 39
I’m going to be blunt with you: your family is evil. Your mother is an insane and evil person. And your step-dad is absolutely evil.
Sweetie, you did the right thing. You have a whole community here who supports you.
Post # 40
darkworld : you 100000% did the right thing!
your mother is clearly a poor judge of character, including not being able to recognize how right you are. Please don’t ever forget this. Stay strong and hang in there. Keep doing what you are doing and stay as far away from your stepdad as possible.
Post # 41
Stay away from your step dad, stay away from your mom and her family. Tell your school counselor that you need therapy and support right now as soon as possible. You can’t do this alone.
Post # 42
Oh, Sweetheart. You did a very good and very brave thing. That must have been so hard and so scary for you.
What did the police and the counselor say? Did they suggest that you stay with your friend for now?
It’s really sad that your mom is blaming you. Some adults have emotional problems that make them do really stupid things like your mom is doing. Maybe some day she will get the professional help that she needs. But, she is *not* your responsibility. She has to solve her own problems with the assistance of other adults. You absolutely cannot help her. And it’s totally ok for you to feel mad at her for letting you down in such a terrible way.
Your stepfather belongs in jail. Did the police say anything about that?
You *should* be thinking about yourself! You’re the kid, your mom is the parent. She has it backwards. This is, unfortunately, not uncommon, sweetie. A lot of young people have had to experience the same kind of betrayal by the person who should always protect you.
Will you be talking to the counselor again? That’s probably a good idea. It will be helpful for you to have someone to talk to.
And we are here for you, honey.
Post # 43
Start with going to the police and file a formal report. Unfortunately I am not sure how much they will do about it. At the very least they will ABSOLUTELY file a complaint to CAS (Children’s aid society). So after you file a complaint I would immediately call your local children’s aid society. If you our after hours then ensure to connect to the emergency line. They will open an investigation. There is a good chance that CAS will remove you from the home while they launch an investigation against your mother and step father. It sounds like you are under 18 years old.
If your step dad is an alcoholic then it is not likely that he will quit drinking. It is not that easy when you are addicted to something. And since he did that while he is drunk it is only a matter of time before he does it again. I am appauled that your mother isn’t doing anything to protect to. So I am begging you, please do everything you can to protect yourself.
I am so sorry you are going through this
Post # 44
darkworld : I’m so proud of you and I’m so pleased to know you are safe!!!
I’m so glad your counsellor and police stepped in.
You are not being a selfish, but actually even if you were so f*cking what! You need to be selfish to protect yourself! Your mum clearly can’t do the job !!!