Post # 46
queenie8119 : you do realize that it took everything for this girl to get from the situation she was in? She was in an abusive household where her parents were trying to destroy her self esteem on a daily basis. Telling a victim of assault that she’s a burden will not help her heal. All she needs right now is compassion, protection and time to heal. You’re talking to a child damn it. Have some compassion.
Post # 48
queenie8119 : you’re terrible. And wrong AF.
Post # 49
queenie8119 : She is a MINOR. I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe you missed that part.
Post # 50
desertgypsy : thank you for deleting that so quickly.
Post # 51
I wish I knew what she said!!! We are trying to help this poor bee and I hope it wasn’t something that pushed the bee back because she came so far and did the right thing.
Post # 52
sassy411 : zl27 : What is your problem?!
Most likely you guys have not gone through something like that. ‘sweet talk’ does not solve real world problems. I used to think like you guys too.
So give useful, and practical advice.
She needs to look out for herself now, not her mom, who obviously isn’t looking out for her minor child’s best interests. And how come a minor got all this time to come out here and post on WeddingBee boards about being harassed? When I went through something horrifying to that extent, WeddingBee was not even the last thing on my mind.
Post # 53
theweddingunplanner : Her friend is going to feel that. Maybe not now, maybe not for a few weeks or some months. How do I know? Because it is not her friend’s or her friend’s family’s responsibility. Based on OPs post, they did not invite her over. They took her in after the police got involved. It is unlikely that they would have no idea that the household is toxic for this child. It is great that everyone is going to come to her aide because the issue is still fairly new. My parents took someone in voluntarily because they were both financially well off and well qualified to take on another child until this person got married. But it is not realistic for most people to think that this is going to last forever. That is the unfortunate fact of life. Especially for OP as her stepdad knows of her whereabouts. There are Government entities in place to handle these types of emergency situations and to provide the required protection and safeguards for abused victims of all types.
Post # 54
queenie8119 : sorry, just to clarify, you are complaining that a minor got support when she needed it, and you are boasting that you dealt with your own trauma in a different way?!
Post # 55
queenie8119 : You do realize that all of her posts are over a course of 3 weeks. She’s not spending “all this time” on WeddingBee. I think you need to leave this post. You are not being helpful at all. And it’s not harrassment, it’s attempted rape/sexual assault.
Post # 56
queenie8119 : my useful advice (if you actually read this thread) was to suggest she talk to her school counselor, who then helped her with the police (aka government). They (aka government) helped place in in her friend’s home.
Next step is likely to help her get back to her grandmother’s. But you would know that if you paid attention instead of jumping down this poor girl’s throat without any understanding of the situation or empathy.
Please go torture somebody else. The OP did nothing wrong.
Post # 57
That is one fuse you really don’t want to light. But, this post is about the best interests of a sexually abused CHILD, not about you, and not about me, so, I will leave it at that.
Post # 58
My take is that “queenie” has yet to deal with *anything*.
Post # 59
queenie8119 : Stop talking now. Thanks.