Harrassed by stepdad

posted 1 month ago in Canada
Post # 46
Member
375 posts
Helper bee

queenie8119 :  you do realize that it took everything for this girl to get from the situation she was in? She was in an abusive household where her parents were trying to destroy her self esteem on a daily basis. Telling a victim of assault that she’s a burden will not help her heal. All she needs right now is compassion, protection and time to heal. You’re talking to a child damn it. Have some compassion. 

Post # 48
Member
3383 posts
Sugar bee

queenie8119 :  you’re terrible. And wrong AF.

Post # 49
Hostess
3994 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

queenie8119 :  She is a MINOR. I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt that maybe you missed that part. 

Post # 50
Member
3383 posts
Sugar bee

desertgypsy :  thank you for deleting that so quickly.

Post # 51
Member
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I wish I knew what she said!!! We are trying to help this poor bee and I hope it wasn’t something that pushed the bee back because she came so far and did the right thing. 

Post # 52
Member
777 posts
Busy bee

sassy411 :  zl27 :  What is your problem?!

 

Most likely you guys have not gone through something like that. ‘sweet talk’ does not solve real world problems. I used to think like you guys too.

So give useful, and practical advice. 

She needs to look out for herself now, not her mom, who obviously isn’t looking out for her minor child’s best interests. And how come a minor got all this time to come out here and post on WeddingBee boards about being harassed? When I went through something horrifying to that extent, WeddingBee was not even the last thing on my mind.

Post # 53
Member
777 posts
Busy bee

theweddingunplanner :  Her friend is going to feel that. Maybe not now, maybe not for a few weeks or  some months. How do I know? Because it is not her friend’s or her friend’s family’s responsibility. Based on OPs post, they did not invite her over. They took her in after the police got involved. It is unlikely that they would have no idea that the household is toxic for this child. It is great that everyone is going to come to her aide because the issue is still fairly new. My parents took someone in voluntarily because they were both financially well off and well qualified to take on another child until this person got married. But it is not realistic for most people to think that this is going to last forever. That is the unfortunate fact of life. Especially for OP as her stepdad knows of her whereabouts. There are Government entities in place to handle these types of emergency situations and to provide the required protection and safeguards for abused victims of all types.

Post # 54
Hostess
8729 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

queenie8119 :  sorry, just to clarify, you are complaining that a minor got support when she needed it, and you are boasting that you dealt with your own trauma in a different way?!

Post # 55
Member
6602 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

queenie8119 :  You do realize that all of her posts are over a course of 3 weeks.  She’s not spending “all this time” on WeddingBee.  I think you need to leave this post.  You are not being helpful at all.  And it’s not harrassment, it’s attempted rape/sexual assault.

Post # 56
Member
3383 posts
Sugar bee

queenie8119 :  my useful advice (if you actually read this thread) was to suggest she talk to her school counselor, who then helped her with the police (aka government). They (aka government) helped place in in her friend’s home.

Next step is likely to help her get back to her grandmother’s. But you would know that if you paid attention instead of jumping down this poor girl’s throat without any understanding of the situation or empathy.

Please go torture somebody else. The OP did nothing wrong.

Post # 57
Member
10859 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

queenie8119 :  

That is one fuse you really don’t want to light.  But, this post is about the best interests of a sexually abused CHILD, not about you, and not about me, so, I will leave it at that.

Post # 58
Member
10859 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Mrs_Beer :  

My take is that “queenie” has yet to deal with *anything*.

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