Post # 61
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Newbee
Hi everyone! Thanks for all the advice. Im doing good by now but my mom and her partner wants me in a group home and i have court on February and i am nervous about it. My social worker and my caregiver doesn’t want me in a group home cause they dont see any reason why i should be there. My moms partner is ruining me by saying stuff that is not true like i always sneak out or skip school even if i dont. He is making me a bad child to everyone and that they think i should be punish by going to grouphome. Thay twisted the story like nothing bad happend and that they think they didnt do anything wrong and that i should be blame by that.
Post # 62
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
darkworld : a group home shouldn’t be punishment. Some kids go to a group home because their own home is not a safe place or not a good place for them. What does your social worker and caregiver want for you? I would think that going home with your stepdad is not safe so you need to do something else. Are there other relatives you can live with? What are your other options?
Post # 63
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11195 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
darkworld :
It’s really good to hear from you, Bee! Thank you for the update. I am glad you’re doing better and have adult professionals on your team.
Abusers lie. Professionals in the field, social workers, therapists, police officers, judges, etc are all well aware of that. Try not to stress over the bs your stepdad spews and focus on *you*.
As for the group home, I don’t know how much authority your mom even has over where you go, at this point. It might be good to get more info from your social worker about the place and all of your options. Some residential facilities are really helpful. I worked in one for years as a senior counselor with adolescents.
I think what you need most right now is information.
Keep moving forward, Bee. You are doing super awesome. I am very proud of you for being so brave and 
so strong. Please keep the updates coming.
Post # 64
Hostess
9060 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
darkworld : So nice to hear an update from you bee. I am sorry your family are telling lies, but try to ignore it, it doesn’t matter – you have people on your side who want you safe and that is all that matters! Stay strong 🙂
Post # 65
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368 posts
Helper bee
darkworld : It is so good to hear from you. I am so glad you are doing better. It doesn’t matter what your mom or that disgusting man says about you, you know the truth. You are a strong young women and you are taking the right steps. You have your social worker and caregiver behind you and I am sure plenty of other people. Stand up and use your voice in court you are now in control. Good luck bee, i’ll be thinking of you. Please keep us posted. Big hugs to you.
Post # 66
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7021 posts
Busy Beekeeper
darkworld : If you have a caregiver that is suitable to take care of you and your social worker is on board with you not going to a group home, I think you have a fair shot of staying out of one in the court’s eyes. They will much rather you be in the care of a capable person you know. Plus, they should be able to pull your attendance record from school and get an idea of how much you “sneak out” from your caregiver. Even if you did sneak out with them, if you’re not doing it while in a more stable home, they’ll recognize that. If your attendance is better with this caregiver, they’ll recognize that too. It sounds like there’s nothing to back up the claims of your emotionally abusive mom and abusive stepdad.
Don’t listen to your mom and stepdad. Cut them out, if you can. And once you’re 18 and don’t need anyone’s support, cut them out for good. You deserve support. I’m so sorry you have to go through this, and I hope you know how strong you’re being. We’re all very proud of the steps you’ve taken to put yourself in a safe environment.
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