Harshest Backhanded Compliment

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I don’t know what the worst one was… but here recently I told my best friend I’m pregnant and this was one of her comments to me:


”I have a college degree and (boyfriends name) makes a ton of money and even I would be freaking out!! You’re handling this so well!!” 🤔 … 



Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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lauralaura123 :  I actually can see the humor in that remark. My Fiance proposed to me randomly during a meal that I made (It was a bit of a special occassion so I made us a romantic dinner and he’d been planning on proposing). So we tell people the lamb was that good it made him want to marry me lol. 

Post # 4
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I’m overweight so I’ve had hundreds of backhanded compliments.

“You have such a pretty face, if you’d just lose some weight it wouldn’t be wasted”.

“You’re a smart girl, you should know better than this”.

So mostly I just ty and let the comments go because it’s not worth trying to point out how what they said is actually offensive.

Post # 5
554 posts
Busy bee

My friend (who always means well) has a foot in her mouth so often, we’ve nicknamed her Muffles. “Bit hard to get the words past the shoe there eh, Muffles?” 

One I can remember was “You do your makeup so well, you look like a different person! You look beautiful! Knocks a couple of years off too!” “Er, thanks Muffles” I call those ones the gattlers. They just keep firing off. But she always means them with the purest heart so we love our Muffles, even if she’s a twit.

Post # 6
434 posts
Helper bee

 “You look really good for your age.”


Post # 7
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wear contacts. Lost one in a rush one morning, wore my glasses to work instead. My boss told me, “Wow, you look smart when you wear glasses!”

Post # 8
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

When my fiancé’s sister said to me, “you know, the more I look at your ring, it actually looks kiiiiind of nice.” 

Post # 9
404 posts
Helper bee

“You are just so cute and charming! (Snarky voice begins) Laughing along…I bet you don’t even know what that means.” This was yesterday in regards to a joke one of my clients made that had a Seinfeld reference. She thought I was a lot younger. Didn’t bother me too much because I’ll be happy to hear this when I’m 50 😏

Post # 10
5818 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Love these- not the rudeness but feels better knowing everyone has these ppl in their lives.

Mine is when a client said to me, ‘oh I can see your husband is feeding you very well! Married life must be good’.  I didn’t know what to say to that, I try to workout daily so that made me feel like poo. 

Post # 11
274 posts
Helper bee

Snarky coworker was eavesdropping on a conversation I was having, then chimed in. “Oh congrats on your new car! *long pause* I would never waste money on a depreciative asset.”


Post # 12
1002 posts
Bumble bee

DH’s aunt is notorious for backhanded compliments.  Most recently, “I love that dress!  Where did you get it?  The color is great on you and that silhouette really hides a tummy.”


Post # 14
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

“Omg you’re so fun when you drink!”

Post # 15
64 posts
Worker bee

It was my MIL’s best friend the first time I met her and my Mother-In-Law. To preface this my husband is tall and slim and has a huge appetite. I am overweight but can’t eat much due to disability. Husband “I love to eat. I can really pack it in”

MIL’s friend looks at me

“You guys sure have that in common. No wonder you guys are such a great pair”

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