Harshest Backhanded Compliment

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
10343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Not harsh but I knew someone who DAILY would say “Wow!! Look at that belly! How’s baby today?”


I was 5 weeks pregnant. 

Post # 17
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I had a ‘friend’ from school say to me “I saw your snapchat of Simba the other day. I wish I could have kept my horse during college too, but I was too worried about my future to spend that kind of money on an animal.”

Um. Ok. That horse is basically my soulmate. 

Post # 19
2749 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

Years ago, I was hired for a new job the same week I found out I was pregnant. That pregnancy was super rough, I was sick all the time and so tired so I just didn’t have the energy or desire to do much in the hair/makeup/dressing nice departments. I gained a bunch of weight and had this awful short brown hair (I do not suit brown at all).

When I went back to work after mat leave, I’d lost lots of weight, had longer hair and dyed it blonde and wore actual nice clothes, on my first day back one co worker come up and said “wow, you’re actually pretty! All this time, I didn’t even know!” Haha.. thanks? 

Post # 20
1169 posts
Bumble bee

“I wish I had the confidence to weigh as much as you”

Greanted I was very heavy at the time but no one deserves to be spoken to like that!

Also, even when I am really heavy, I carry my weight exceptionally well!  No one looks at me like ‘OMG, lose some weight, tubby’.  That’s just one of the many nasty things this girl would say to me.  

Post # 21
924 posts
Busy bee

This wasn’t to me but to a friend…

This friend isn’t overweight, and I wouldn’t say even chubby! But as with all of us women, when we bend over, she naturally has a belly.

One day we were out at a friend’s lakehouse and my friend comes out in her bikini, and another girl (who I am not personally friends with but who is friends of my friend) said, “Wow, I wish I was as confident as you! I would never want people to see my tummy roll.”

Looking back, it probably speaks volumes about her insecurities, but my friend was definitely offended by the comment.

Post # 22
1089 posts
Bumble bee

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lauralaura123 :  “you have such elegant features but your nose is a bit off. Are you part Jewish?” WTF, are you Nazi? Mind you a 75 year old man told me this and I almost asked him the same question. That’s my usual rebuttal. A different old man told me “you look like you workout a lot. How much do you weigh?” I asked him that same question and it shut him up. 

Post # 23
2314 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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lauralaura123 :  “Wow, you’re actually totally nice! I was always scared to talk to you, before.”

I have an epic  RBF

Post # 24
1708 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

 So a while back,  I was or of the office worthy some coworkers and she said “Wow,  when we first met,  I thought you were a bubble-headed blonde, but now that we’ve worked together for a while,  I realize got really know your stuff.” I was just like than you,  and wondered if she was racist, alas a sign of the time. 

Post # 25
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

In high school I was the fat kid. A friend, during swimming class, said “if I was fat, I’d want to look like you because you carry the extra weight well. You’re, like, perfect for a fat person.”…. ummmmm, thank you? lol.

Post # 26
64 posts
Worker bee

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lifeisbeeutiful :  I know right. I was too shocked to even respond (lucky for her lol)

Post # 27
29 posts

When I was at a house party trying one of every cake: “Wow, you’re like a garbage can!”


Post # 28
1206 posts
Bumble bee

“I cannot wait for your wedding day. I mean, you won’t be a young bride, but still”. 

Thanks grandma! 


(I was 27)


Post # 29
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

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lauralaura123 :  Oh wow, that’s pretty sexist. I would have been like, “Well, my cooking’s not the only reason he’s with me, but thank you.” Mine is not relationship oriented, but I once received a birthday card from a co-worker that compared my birthday to a dandelion-a WEED- “they always come up every year!” That one was kind of irritating, LOL, because it implies that my birthday is an annual annoyance.

Post # 30
6872 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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lauralaura123 :  Years ago I worked at a daycamp.  Two other gals who worked there as well (we were all in local high schools and such, I definitely knew them) had a conversation about me, as high schoolers do.  One came up to me and said “____ and I were talking and we agreed, if you wore makeup and did your eyebrows, you’d be the prettiest girl at camp!” Knowing them as I did, I’m pretty sure she had no idea how her comment came off.  I cracked up, though.  I may not have the highest level of security but stuff like that can’t bring me down at all – and to this day I still don’t wear makeup or get my brows ‘done’.  In fact, it appears that thick brows are on trend now, lol.

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